DL or 'Down Low' means 'dirty, dishonest and lost'...

You can kind of compare it to wine drinking in Europe...



In Europe, there is no legal drinking age...so many, not all, but many, grow up drinking in moderation...
Since it was never forbidden, there's never a desire to 'binge drink' or 'splurge'...

A healthier relationship, a more honest relationship, is experienced with drinking, in parts of Europe...than in America...(Germany excluded).

Same with soxuality and attraction...and is why the males are more laid back and casual in Europe, compared to the Hard chiseled John Wayne cowboy image American males project.

European society tends to allow for more subtleties when in comes to gender interaction and or roles, thus you have less extreme behavior.

Homophobia isn't rampant there, like in America...or parts of the middle east...(homophobia in Africa was started by American missionaries, but that's another story, for another time)...

Guys in Europe, and parts of Asia, even hold hands at times...but their not 'gay'...the same way women do in America while shopping with a good friend...

Women in the west are given this range, yet males are not.

In the West...we've framed all and any same sox affection with hardcore homosoxuality...

And the results have been terrible...and have given rise to odd extreme behaviors.

If a male seeks affection, comfort, from another male in any way shape or form...he's deemed gay.

So males in the west hide their natural, human range of emotions, and instead pretend to be 1 dimensional alpha dogs all the time.

Guys, males, who aren't even gay, are categorized as such...where as in Europe, their behavior would not be deemed as gay at all...

Examples...

1. In America...two guys hugging while walking down the street...'Oh you must be gay!'...
In Europe...just good friends who care about each other.

2. In America two guys holding hands walking on the beach...'Oh you must be gay!'...
In Europe...just good friends who care about each other.

3. In America...two guys sitting on couch, while watching movie, closer than 2 ft apart...'Oh you must be gay!'
In Europe...just good friends who care about each other.

And I could go on and on...

The definition of 'gay' is so wide ranging in America, that many are made to feel gay who really aren't.

Extreme homophobia has cause more to become gay, be defined as gay, than normal regular tolerance ever could...amazing how that works...

I trust openly gay people way more than closet types, who tend to hide their intentions until an opportune time.

They hide their intentions cause they're conflicted with what they're attracted to, and all the stigma that comes from being 'gay' in certain communities, and so they hide their intentions.

But sometimes those intensions can come out during very ackward times.

An openly gay person has learned how to manage their orientation in a proper, respectful manner, a closet gay person has not.

So their expression may come out when they drink, or do drugs, or when they're emotionally up or down.

The conflict within tears them apart, cause they can't change whom their attracted to, so it tears them apart on the inside until they finally find some odd outlet like on C/L adds, where people want to do the oddest things to each other, but all in 'secrecy'.

Openly gay people are much more mature about their orientation, and manage their orientation as a normal hetro would.

Sadly though, in most communities, society has put such a condemning stigma on being gay that the majority of people still hide their orientation in fear of retribution, expecially people who come from tough inner city communities.

Where this exaggerated false bravado defines gay as being someone, who just cause you're gay, allows others to walk all over you, condemn you during the day, but knock on your door at 1:00 am in the morning 'to play'.

I'd much rather live in an openly gay community in San Francisco than a closet gay community in Birmingham Alabama.

Honesty just makes you a better person, a cleaner person, even if other condemn what you're honest about.

(in reference to this topic anyways.)

DL types are the ones who you would never suspect of being 'gay', and they take advantage of your stupidity

And is why I totally prefer open, out of the closet, gay/lesbian types, or personalities.

Honesty is always a better trait to have than dishonesty.

But truth is there are many who are torn, confused, and not sure what they are or should be.

Their hormones tell them one thing, yet morality (as they know it) tells them another.

So even though they may be attracted to 'same sox', may hide do to personal conflict of values, or just 'shame'.

These are not the people I'm talking about...they get a pass on here...cause they're genuinely confused and or afraid of both 'Gods Judgment' and or societies judgment' as well.



Being genuinely confused is one thing, but being purposely deceptive is another.

And some, or maybe many, or genuinely confused about their 'soxuality'.
Like some have feet fetishes, no one is born asking to have a foot fetish, yet many do, or 'butt fetish' or an array of other odd fetishes that no one in their right mind asks to have...yet do.

As if Programmed into DNA by mysterious designers.



No one is perfect, no body is perfect, disease, cancer exists, Ebola, viruses...and so one.
People born with down syndrome, and other mental disorders, born with missing limbs, born blind, born with personality disorders and on and one and one.

We are Code!

We're or 'humans' are nothing more than living code, biological code.
And obviously this code is flawed at times.

Whether do to 'sin' as the bible states, or do simply to millions of replications...flesh is flawed.

If it weren't there'd be no hospitals or graveyards.

Anyways I'm kind of getting off point here.

My main point was that I prefer honest open 'gays' over closet or 'Craigslist' types who have a more sinister view of soxuality.

I'll give case in point in up coming post.

Why many 'gay' folks annoy me, at least in adds

Also, 'gay' means different things to different people

I was scanning adds for roommates, and this one add said 'gay male seeking room, blah blah blah'..and saw where it had photo, so stupid me (ya'd think I'd of learned by now) hit the C/L add and there was a stupid looking 'B' dude with tongue hanging out mouth, gross.

First off

1. They were ugly butt ugly, gay or not, they were just ugly, no physical charm or grace, just some average labor ready laborer type of ugly and bland.

Here's what people in general need to know when posting pick on self on C/L, gay or not, people really do need to find the best picture, and brush it up, not just 'any ole picture' of yourself, cause first impressions are everything.

I would post a picture of this dude here, but never want to see that face again.

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Me, what I am is alone and sometimes lonely, as such in right environment who knows.

But online gay types, they're sick to me, and gross, and crude, and think just cause another could be open to same gender romance or playful flirting, that they can be as perverse to and towards you as they want, since in their mind 'your gay', so what do you care.

They have it in their mind that one can't be gay or lean gay or be bi curious without being an out and right yogarted tweeb.

In other words they judge you by who they are, and since they lack any values, ethics, they just figure you have none, or taste.

But I'm here to say one can be same gender oriented and still be as moral if not more than a flat Hetero type.

Orientation has nothing to do with morality, believe me I've been around enough people to know that.

Some Hetero types are very moral and upright and some gay types very moral and upright.

Some Hetero types are very immoral and dirty, and some gay types very immoral and dirty.

I mean just because some guy is alone and lonely and if met the right other 'guy', wouldn't mind watching movie on couch together, doesn't mean said guy also wouldn't mind having ex with a goat or something, yet people make that immoral progression in their minds.

'Oh, if you're gay, or think other males can be soxy, than you must also want to molest and rape hobbits'

Is how some think, especially brainwashed church types.

Anyways, to wrap this post up, just saying sloppy, immoral gay types really do annoy the heck out of me, you know, the types that send pictures of their hong slong, (Hetero men do this to women also).

It's just certain men, be they gay or straight, who do that type of crap, like they have the same base personality type, just one is gay, the other is straight.

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And they think because you're gay, that you're attracted to anything male that walks, nothing could be further from the truth, gay males are very particular over who they're attracted to, some gay guys only prefer very petite fem type of males, others are petite, and so prefer a stronger masculine male for balance, and some gays like men who look like body builders, it various, but don't know any gay males who like some scummy, goodwill dressed looking B guy that had his photo on the C/L post, that's for sure.

'Scummy' to me =

1. Dude or guy or male who just wakes up in the morning, never looks in the mirror, never combs hair and just walks out into the world 'as is'.= scummy

And scummy type males can be gay and or hetero.

And then when they post adds online, as in C/L, maybe looking for a roommate or ect, they post same ole scummy look of them self for the world to see, and it never occurs to them that they're ugly as all can be.

People like this totally lack self perspective.