After a while, you begin to realize your biological family is the least likely to see you as you are, want to be, or have evolved into.
Not all, just depends I suppose on dynamics, each family is different.
But on average the closer you get to family, the smaller you become again, that is if an independent type open to new ideas about yourself and others.
If a woman, your 'Mother' just wants you to grow up, get married, and have kids, but in reality maybe you don't want to, maybe you're a Lesbian, or Bi, or plural, and dig exotic jazz music
If your a male, your Mother, Uncle, Father, ect, are only able to see you through a narrow, traditional male lens, reflective of the time they grew up, but maybe in reality you're not and never were, and since not living under the same social chains they were, you enjoy exploring your new found social environment.
And I could go on, in that family tends to treat you as if you're a Barbie doll, and they project very strict traditional roles and behavior onto you, and to many that can be very suffocating.
Yes, unless stick to the most traditional of gender roles, and views of the world, and standard of beauty, or what you consider beautiful, family will look at you odd or as being 'sick'.
And yes, all that made sense for a while when the stated directive of people in society was to get married early on, have kids, buy home, and become Ward and Jun Cleaver.
But in 2019, that's no longer really the average, especially if in lower economic scale.
My also, my standard of beauty is not complex to me, but would be to others within own family.
I've been single pretty much forever, many lonely nights, days, weekends, holidays, alone.
So now I kind of resent women/men for passing me up, then years later I'm suppose to look upon them as if they're still 'hot'?
They now want to give me their 'left overs?', are you kidding?, is how I see it at times.
Didn't want to give me a family, yet now I'm suppose to adore you?, why?
Truth is I know what's beautiful to me, but doubt I can ever 'have it'...
To me, the point of being with the opposite sex is to create on family unite, but if that's no longer apart of the equation, than why should I be forced to automatically adore the opposite sex? which I did for years, and got me no where.
I now actually find that elements of beauty lay within both genders, not just one.
But with me it comes more down to body types I suppose, not so much gender but body types.
Certain body types I'm drawn to, regardless of gender, is a better way of putting it, and certain body types I'm repulsed by, regardless of gender.
My main thing is soft hands and feet, regardless of gender.
But at the same time just because I adore people with soft hands and feet doesn't mean I want to bed down with them.
Not sure why most people think sex always has to be a destination to adoring someone else.
My thoughts are everyone else's, I'm just more honest about it, at least in print..