Male cross gender identity, a psychoanalytic examination

Feeling cute to self, as a male, means what?

As above post kind of stated, just wanting to feel 'cute', as a male, in and of itself means nothing other than wanting to feel cute.

What does 'cute' indicate?

If something or someone is 'cute', than that something or someone or even animal is seen as not posing harm to another (Initially)

But since humans are a very sight based species, the 'initial' few seconds one has to form opinion about another is done based on surface features.

The longer one lives, the longer one becomes aware of how others react to their surface appearance, through trial and error one begins to realize if perceived as 'ugly', or bad, than people react one way, yet if perceived as 'cute' and 'nice', people react yet another.

If perceived as ugly and bad, you get beat over the head by society, peers, and even strangers...



Yes, when people fear you, based on your appearance, they're more likely to get hostile towards you, aggressive, and very defensive.

It's why the devil is more likely to appear as an 'angel' than as itself, cause Satan knows this about human nature all to well (just using that as example)

On the other hand, if perceived as, and or backed up by physical beauty, society, people, more likely to 'relax' when your presence is near. (Assuming in a civilized society)



The more cute you are, the closer others want to get to you, invite you out, social doors open up to you that otherwise would not, if perceived as 'ugly' and a threat.

Now lets take it to 'inner self'.

Many who 'cross dress', or like seeing self in different photogenic light, do so outside the realm of public view, why?

Cause the same as explained above, can also apply to self, and how self views self, particularly when alone.

'Nature always seeks a healthy balance', and in the absence of a beautiful woman to look at and adore, some males subconsciously become that which they don't have.

When married to beautiful wife, you wake up and get to see them, they become reflection of self, but if single, there is no beautiful wife to wake up to, so instead only see self in mirror, a dull appearing male.

So subconsciously some males counter this by making selves look more appealing to self, they try to become that which they wish they could have, but do not.

This behavior immediately stops when a female is around, since she will satisfy his need for 'beauty'.

So one shouldn't get 'being gay', mixed up with 'Man Tran syndrome'.

The difference between gay, and 'Man tran syndrome' is as follows.

1. When one is gay, no woman, no matter how beautiful, can change persons desire for same sox intimacy.

2. When one afflicted with 'Man Tran Syndrome', it's a behavior designed to comfort self, not others, and usually brought on by extreme loneliness or isolation from opposite gender.
Man tran syndrome immediately goes away when person paired with mate, and natures whole complete balance is satisfied.

3. Transoxuals actually want to become women, with 'boobs' and all and more, people afflicted with 'Man Tran Syndrome' are perfectly happy being males, and simply enjoy stretching or exploring own range of looks to comfort self and bring balance in the absence of a female.

That concludes this post, but more explanations to follow.

Also, body type has a lot to do with 'it'



Here I will focus on 'males of color' and or in particular 'black males' or those deemed as.

(Cause they get the brunt of societies worst stereotypes)

Not all 'b' males are the same, not all 'b' males have cotton field genetically bred type of bodies.

In that for 400 years, during slavery, black males were basically bred to be featureless 'OX's', men who's only purpose in life was to be 'cotton field tough'.

Large hands, large feet, muscles and so forth, slaves were bred the same way horses were bred, and this went on for 400 years!

But then do to 'racial mixing', you had Indians mixing DNA with slaves, and whites and Asians and this and that, long story short, not all males of color resemble 'tanks'...battle tanks.

Just like not all 'white' males resemble Vikings of old.

Some males are even more graceful than females with their movements, both black and white and Hispanic and Asian.

'Gracefulness' is not a gender specific identity or trait.

I run into many females that move more like Bulls....zero grace, non what so ever, some of these urban females would make better men than do many males I encounter.

Point is you have to be comfortable with 'self'...not only that but I've seen many 'b' males who look rougher than Tyson, on the surface, who are as delicate as a balerina dancer, by choice.

Not all 'b' males allow society to define them, just like 'w' males do not.

But sadly society usually more willing to allow 'w' males to wander off of traditional roles than they are 'b' males, at least when younger.

In the end, all any decent person wants is 'peace' and to be left alone.

I mean who doesn't, didn't dream of having a 'normal family', fitting into 'normal' role, Ward Cleaver, June Cleaver role, but in this day and age that's not always possible, and as such people have to carve out their own roles for self, roles that soothe self.

Many bible preaching churches don't get this.

Instead they shove 'Jesus' down people throats without ever dealing with the issue of loneliness.

Loneliness is the window to all sorts of odd behaviors, odd to outside observer, but soothing to the one being observed.

To be continued.

Well me, I'm attracted to cute athletic people regardless of their gender.

I like people who think 'young' on the inside.

I mean if not 'pro creating' than gender really has little meaning to me, when it comes to whom I'm attracted to.

Black folks hate me



Most black folks conditioned to think of selves as colonial cattle, don't like me, cause I think to much 'out of the box' and refuse to allow others to define what I'm suppose to be, for their convience, and not mine.

I'm 'me', a happy go lucky soul, what else can I see, so are many other males of color, white males, Asian males, Hispanic males and so forth, but other we're stuck in societies where free expression not allowed.

And where we're demonized, and where others think just because we're happy with 'self' that some how we have darker motives.

As you get older you just start to realize that nice people, souls, are nice, regardless of surface bs.

But as long as insecure men, insecure women, run things, types like us will always be demonized.

When we look ugly, we're demonized, when we try to look 'softer' for ourselves, we're still demonized, gosh, some of us just can't seem to win.

Not with man anyways.

Well at least we have each other, kind of and sort of in a distant way.

You're not alone.

The 'Q' in LGBTQ, people rarely discuss that letter

I'll let patient '2 tone' discuss.





P = patient

E = examiner
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P - Hi, so happy to be here in the zone, what was the question again?

E - Are you gay?

P - Wow, that's kind of forward isn't it, am I gay?, I'm celibate, OK

E - If you weren't celibate would you be gay?

P - Why are you being so aggressive, why do you care what I am?

E - For research purposes, now are you gay?

P - Do you want me to be gay?, sounds like it.

E - Do you believe in same sox marriage?

P - Huh?

E - Are you gay?

P - Ok you know what you are weird.

E - If I leaned over this desk and kissed you right now what would your reaction be?

P - Huh?....oh no you just didn't, what's wrong with you?, where a towel.

P - Say, what kind of Doctor are you anyways??

E - Will you marry me?

P - Hey, you're not a doctor, you're a patient here like me, OK, I'm outta hear, you're weird.

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End taped session.

Electric shock therapy followed this interview, can here it here in Podcast

mcdn.podbean.com/mf/web/4b9gxb/Better_to_get_Corona_now_than_later.mp3

The 'ugly' but lovable duckling, time for a interview session



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E = Examiner

UD = patient

Let's begin
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E - Why do you think you're ugly?

UD - Cause I am, I mean not on the inside I'm not, but people see my outside before they see my insides

E - Why do you think that is?

UD - I don't know, cause I'm not blonde??

E- Next question, Why do you have a crush on Shaquille O'Neil the NBA player?

UD - I don't know, cause they're big, and I like things that are bigger than me, things that are bigger than me, and nice, just make me feel safe I suppose, and they can play basketball, something I could never do.

E - What about Lebron James, they to are big.

UD - Whatever, can we move onto the next question, Lebron would hate me, they're way to one dimensional, the type who would laugh at me.

E - Are you OK?

UD - I'm fine, can I leave now, there's a movie I want to watch

E - Yes, you may go, and by the way, you're not 'ugly', you're just a bit confused. now go see nurse Rachet, so you can get credit for this interview.

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Poor poor ugly duckling, they're always trying to be something they're not.

But here, at least in the Zone, they're accepted 'as is'.