When people day dream, they, we, you, I, usually project self through 3rd or 4th party 'being'.
'We' test the waters of life, different situations, by projecting self as 'another'.
1. If tough physically, maybe on the inside very vulnerable, and so always project self in day dreams as being the opposite of what you are, or the opposite of how others perceive you, I, we, ourselves.
If perceived as tough, maybe in day dreams always some feminine cute looking type always being cornered and bullied, not hated but bullied. In that usually when people bully you, they don't really hate you, rather they desire you.
On the other hand people who actually hate you, do not bully you, rather they simply avoid you.
In other to be bullied you have to have desirable traits, be it male or female, that's why usually people who are bullied actually look 'attractive'.
Bullying is a different level of flirting.
People bully that which they really desire, but feel they cannot have, 'So since I can't have you, I'll bully you instead'.
'Since I can't hug you, I'll chase you instead', 'Since you won't talk to me, I'll annoy you instead' and so forth.
As such, people who are actually 'hated', often project self in day dream as being apart of the majority acceptable 'class', as someone who is desired, rather than hated.
And obviously this varies depending on culture one is apart of, what nation their apart of and so forth, but to keep it simple I'm sticking mainly to 'Western culture' for examples.
Although as more and more people from Eastern and Southern culture crowd into the West, norms are begging to change.
1. a white male youth raised in urban area, around people of color, may perceive in their mind that 'if I were a B female, maybe people would like me more', and so in their day dreams may project self as being a black female all of the time to 'test the waters'.
2. If Asian student, and feel ignored, such person could project self in day dreams as being 'blonde' (Cause at least now I know their ignoring me out of Jealousy instead of hate'.
Also, I once heard on the radio, a successful older B female author who when younger always projected herself as being a tidy, Ivy league type of a W guy, she admitted this on the radio.
Even though she was deemed a B female on the surface, on the inside she saw herself as being a Ivy League W guy, and years later did actually become successful.
Everyone has their own internal medicine, ways of coping, which on the outside, to others, may seem strange, but allows 'said' person to cope.
Physically weak people may project their day dream character as being strong, or a jock, in order to cope.
I mean there's millions of combos in that everyone has their own idea of what they should be, or could be, in order to be Universally accepted.
But in reality, there's no such one shape, one would have to 'shift shape' 1000 times a day to always be what the person you're standing in front of Ideal physical form.
In that if standing before 'Mike', you have to look one way, then when standing in front of Larry, would have to look another way, then when standing in front of Jane, would have to again read their mind to know what you'd have to morph into to be ideal to them.
And on and on, then when you add color and culture and fetishes it gets even more complex.
But on a individual level, it's how most people cope, although most won't admit it and is why 'The Zone' does.
Yes, like right now I want, I need, a big long hug, but am to 'ugly' to get one from anyone (well maybe not ugly, that was a bit of an exageration)
But still I need a hug right now, am not going to get one, so I project self as being 'cute' enough in mind, daydream, that others would want to actually hug me 'as is'.
And there's millions of people or others, who project or day dream themselves into ideal situations or 'persons' to get that which they want or desire, but all worked out inside of mind rather than in the physical.
Last Edit: Mar 13, 2019 6:26:21 GMT -5 by X factor