Life in the hood...Life around hood folks...

Living in the hood wears you out, cause you're constantly having to prove you're 'not like the others'.

But that wears you out, it wears you out emotionally and erodes away at your happiness and self esteem.

Distinctions aren't really made in the hood, if you're in the hood, it's just assumed by everyone your trash.

Regardless of your color or shade or level of education or how you speak, everyone just assumes you're trash, from the Cops, to the Convient store clerks, to even others living around you.

It's hard to find positive energy in the hood, it's hard to find anyone with dreams, or willing to share them.

It's near impossible to find someone who breaks the mold, dresses differently, acts differently ect.

The only time you get that is if someone who's not from the hood, happens to move into the hood, or hood area.

The place I stay at is actually not so bad, like an Island of peace surrounded by chaos....I got lucky I suppose.

Not only that but they're trying to clean up the area by driving away all the non productive citizens who move in and bring crime.

Almost like what they did with Harlem, how Harlem kind of rebuilt itself and is now becoming an upscale, working class neighborhood.

As more and more middle class people, families, move down, and not up, as they move down, and are forced to move into poorer neighborhoods where rent, homes, are cheaper, their tolerance for hood behavior is short.

When this class of people starts moving into the hood areas, cops ramp up patrols.

I hate to bring race into this but Cops love to protect 'white' people.

When a white family moves into the hood, the Police are everywhere, suddenly, to protect them.

When poor whites move into a neighborhood, all the BS stops, the city takes notice and drives out all the criminals.

That's good, but it's also sad that responsible black families can't have the same effect.

I look forward to one day leaving this area, and being able to write about new environment.

I only write about the immediate environment I'm in.

Maybe my next environment will be living around Cowboys, and I can write about the ups and downs of that culture, or maybe it will be living around yuppies, and I can write about that.

Or maybe rural country folks, and I can create a thread titled 'Life in the sticks, life around stick folks'...

I only write about what I see right in front of my face as I'm experiencing it.

The longer I'm here, the less comfortable I feel.

You would think it would be just the opposite, and I think that proves that this area is not, and will never be 'home' to me.

Or maybe it's just where I stay...I don't know.

Sometimes it can just be a side of town, or area that turns you off, and maybe not nessarily a whole region.

But I'm not trying to do the 40 mile one way commute thing, that alone would depress me...giving up 2 hours a day just for commuting.

I suppose if I had a family it would be different, but I'm the type that likes to live right where I work.

I was listening to a sports radio show the other day, and they ran trivia, and none of the urban callers who called in even knew who the 'Beatles' were.

And that's what I mean about culturally small minded shallow people.

I mean most all whites know who James Brown is, know who MC Hammer is, know who Aretha Franklin is, know who Stevie Wonder is, but when you come to the hood, where there's no cultural range, no one knows anything about music history, all it is day and night is mind numbing rap.

Everyone in the hood is monolithic.

If you're use to diverse thought, styles and range, it can be quite smothering to live in such a community.

Where everyone is dead stupid, unless it comes to street stuff.

Not all black communities are like this.

It's just many blacks in Ghettos, or the SE areas, never spread out, never were allowed to intergrate into other communities, as such never received anything new in terms of ideas, ways of thought ect.

And is why you see the same behavior repeated over and over again, regardless of what hood you go to, kind of scary when you think about it, how people in a Detroit hood, act just like people in a Miami hood, who act like people in a Dallas hood, same mindset, different locations.

I want to move back to a place (if they exist anymore) where there is absolutely no hood, no generational poverty, no social illness, no generational single mothers where projects are set up.

Although now days, projects are about a thing of the past, and through vouchers people who use to live in projects now move into regular apartment complexes and destroy the place.

I don't know if it's getting worse or better in other areas.

Then in the SW you have a wave of immigration, everyone speaks Spanish practically.

I just wonder if there's any regular 'Leave it to Beaver' neighborhoods left anymore, where you just have normal working class people, families...



A place where there's no crime, where whole families live in houses, no urban styles or mannerisms at all, a place where people are practical, go to school, college, graduate, join military.

A place where the county jail isn't crammed packed full of black or Hispanic males...

And if blacks do live in area, have severed all connections with colonial mind damage way of thinking.

And instead think like normal mature stable minded adults. (not sure if any ones totally mature though).

I don't want to live in areas where there's 'sections of town where these people live and those people live'...that's always a bad sign.

That means one side of the town is doing well, and the other side is ghetto.

Not sure if such a place even exists anymore, and if they do, trying to find work is a whole other issue.

I know such communities still exist, but they're usually in colder states like Wyoming, Utah, Idaho, Eastern Washington, Western PA, Maine, New Hampshire ect.

Usually in areas with wonderful summers and freezing cold winters.

Oh well, either way I'm sure this is my last year here.

I've grown and matured since first arriving here, and now what I see on daily basis is just unsettling to me, I'll never ever get use to the absurdity of it all.

This is not a judgment for or against, just a real life observation.

And that is women in the hood (or maybe now any community), only wait so long, and then decide to get pregnant with or without a husband or marriage.

I've been here for several years now and can't tell you how many women I've met who on surface put up such a 'proper' I go to church demeanor, who put up a 'I don't sleep around' demeanor, just to see them end up pregnant months later, with no husband and not married.

It's like a biological clock ticks within all women...



And if husband isn't found within 'said time', the process of 'settling' occurs, the process of just allowing which ever man happens to have crush on you at time to get you pregnant, occurs.

I've seen this played out time and time again.

The urge to create offspring, start a family occurs in the hood with or without suitable husband or marriage.

I'm talking even amongst higher moral compass people even, not just welfare types, but working class types.

In this day and age of modern convience, and a shortage of suitable men, women in the hood (and elsewhere) really see no need to wait on marriage to create family.

And unfortunately there are to many sorry men willing to be used as 'breeders' to carry out woman's wishes.

There's always willing male breeders in every pack, who only care about 'the moment', but not the 9 months of pregnancy or 18 years of raising.

Marriage is not even a word you hear in the hood anymore...Marriage, what's that?

Again, not judging, just observing.

I mean if a female in the hood, where so many males are ill equipted to get a job, where the males don't go to college, where many have petty or serious criminal records, what's a gal to do??

In order for many women in the hood, black women in the hood, to find a suitable mate, they'd have to socially cross over, date outside community and or ethnicity.

And actually higher degreed black women do do that...more and more black women arechoosing to date outside confines of hood males. (see link in red)(dating site where black women date white, and 'other' men).

I mean can you blame a woman for doing that?

What woman wants to forever be with a man whom forever always acts like a teenager, dresses like a teenager, thinks like a teenager, listens to teenage music all while age 43.

Many black women, females, who are educated, get sick and tired of baby sitting their men, and want some financial help and future security, and want 'class'.

As such they've opened up their range.

But not all truly 'hood' type females are socially comfortable doing that.
Many black women raised soley in the hood, are only comfortable with other hood types, and would have no idea how to behave around a white or Persian Stock Broker or Engineer living in normal middle class neighborhood where people don't litter and attend community meetings.

All I'm saying Is I've observed the need to breed trumps even religious and social values.

The need to breed comes first, then religion may follow or social morays.

Cause at least in the hood, if most women waited around for suitable man to marry, most would never marry.

Whites, white youth, bring more 'diversity' to the hood, or any area, than 'blacks'

No one has ever heard this before, cause most don't know how to be honest, neutral and simply observe, even if observations go against supposed 'self interest' or 'ego' or 'pride'.

As one who has always been rejected by all, and loved or liked by a few, I can be honest with what I observe, since I'm a pitch person for no one.

And again I repeat 'whites tend to bring more diversity to either the hood, or urban areas than do 'hood type blacks' or even 'hood type hispanics'.

For one, regardless of going into history and the 'why's', whites tend to be more comfortable in their skin, and generally more accepting of others than other socio-economic or ethnic groups.

I'm not talking about your politicized Fox News, angry bitter types, I'm referring to just common, next door neighbor type of white person who doesn't make the press headlines.

I've lived in a variety of neighborhoods, and straight up can say it's the 'whites' who bring diversity to areas, and not blacks or even hispanics.

When I live in black areas, everyone is 'monolithic', the same, same dress, styles, music (rap or R&B), same slang, same speech pattern, same everything, like clones.

When I've lived in predominatly white areas, every white person I encountered was different, some liked jazz, some like rock, others liked country, some were into Opera or the arts, some where gay, some bi, others loved to hunt and fish, some loved hot rod cars, some were very religious, some were punk rocks, grunge, and some even liked rap, death metal, heavy metal, blue grass on and on and on.

White communities are just way more diverse when it comes to cultural interests or identities.

And it's not until some white family moves into the hood, where parents and hobbits have much healthier, broader, view of self, that you ever see black youth willing to try other things.

Like playing 'hacky sack'...I just saw white hobbit teaching black hobbit how to play hacky sack.



Even though this is kind of a 'hood area'...the white youth doesn't see self as 'hood' and just sees self as 'a normal person', and as such hasn't been sucked into the negative self loathing mode that most males in the hood inherit.

When areas are 'all black' all I see is crime, violence, gang type mentalities, hussling, hostility and more.

It's not until whites move in, that I then start observing, arts and crafts, special events, kite flying, skate boarding, and other things that aren't associated with simply being a 'g'.

And I for one find it very refreshing, and believe it or not other blacks do to, but simply don't know how to articulate it, or don't have the depth or mindset too.

I've never seen 'blacks' bring diversity to any area they've taken over...all blacks, at least single mother hood types and their offspring bring to neighborhoods is 'thuggery, anger, and liter....lots and lots of liter.

Sorry, that's just an honest open observation.

All I observe, when blacks dominate area or apartment complex, is loud unruly hobbits running around un supervised, no after school programs, no studying at home on computer, nothing.

When I was at public place last year, sat down next to urban black male, nothing...absolutely nothing, dude had no idea how to talk, engage in conversation, unless it was in short street lingo.

Then sat next to white male of similar age, and the white male was into science, was in college, was developing video game programs, and another older white male was into business development and talked his mouth off.

But when I went back to sit around the black males...nothing, absolutely nothing but a dead intellectual tone.

'Ummm I don't know'

'Ummmm I don't know, ask that guy'

That's all I'd get from the black males, absolutely nothing, which totally reflected the enviornments they came from...nothing.

In conclusion, it's an absolute myth that 'blacks' bring diversity to areas, sorry but diversity has a heck of a lot more to do with mindset than it does color.

And from what I observe, it's whites that bring diversity to areas, not urban blacks.



Now before you go away fuming, I'm not suggesting all 'whites' are angels or saints, or perfect pop culture fuzz balls.

Within white community you can find all kinds, even some whom are very hateful and resentful towards non whites.

But they aren't the theme of this particular post, I'm just speaking in general here.

And in general whites bring much more peace, calm, normality to neighborhoods than do urban type blacks.

I've seen it, lived it, still am, with my own eyes.

Continued on next post....

Contrary to what civil rights activists, who live no where near the hood, think, hoods aren't places filled with peace loving, 1960's era, helpless victims, not even.

The hood mentality has become generational now, the hood mentality is a very preditorial one.

The hood is a self breathing entity now, with life of it's own totally unrelated to past social issues.

People in the hood are cruel and physically viscous to one another, and or others.

Out lining civil law and authority are the only things that keep the hoods from turning into primitive 3rd world habitations.

But even many 3rd world habitations have societies with rules, and morals, so that's not even a fair comparison.

3rd world doesn't mean 'immoral'...the hood has become very immoral, has removed godly principles from it's midst.

People reason totally different in the hood.

Yes, people are immoral everywhere, but at least in other areas civility reigns.

In other places, people are immoral inside their homes, in the hood people are blatantly immoral outside in public and on the streets.

Young men commit crimes early on, and then have to spend the rest of their lives hussling to get by.

No one forces anyone to commit a crime, it's a moral choice to do so.

But many don't have a biblically based moral platform in which to even measure or compare their own actions to, so if it feels right to the flesh, just do it.

Hood youth are the most scary youth on the planet, totally unpredictable in their capacity for violence.

The hood has become like the 'moral dead zone'...a dead zone kept alive by Government subsistence.

If not for Constant Government subsistence, there would be no hood, no housing, no food, as such people would wise up in a real quick hurry.

But in America, if you have a baby, Government steps in and takes care of the bills, which is the source of the hood.
Government subsidies enables this type of behavior to continue, with no end in sight.

It allows people to reach adulthood with the mental capacity of a 'slave' leaving a plantation for the first time.

But in the hood, people have been brainwashed to see all this as 'cool'.

Some how developing traits that make one socially destructive is 'cool' in the hood, and rappers further celebrate and boast of this destructive mindset through albums they release.

And then have the nerves to still turn around and blame the 'white man' for this inner community social decay.

Nah, the hood mentality has become a self sustaining mindset totally independent of any 1960's era oppression.

And until people own up to this crap, it will never change.

Trying to help people in the hood 'change' for the better is like trying to help a dog infected with Rabies, like Cujo



Yes, trying to help people who are mentally sick is like trying to help a animal infected with rabies, you will get attacked, beat up, thrown to the ground, and if not careful, infected.

The hood mentality is like a virus, it will destroy the mind and body and more.

But those infected just don't care, and when they do finally care, it's usually to late...so sad and tragic...