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Post by X factor on Jun 8, 2021 9:29:11 GMT -5
I don't want no one living with me, I think it would drastically 'shrink' me, a part of me would 'fade out', cause that's what we tend to do when around others, we shrink ourselves as if at the office or something.
When alone in my place can do what I want, dress how I feel, behave as I please, but when someone else sharing your space you have to greatly modify all that...it's just natural to.
When another is in your space you become more 'conscious' of your behavior, your looks, ect, and you shrink in order to make them feel at ease and or not to embarrass yourself.
Maybe only while in a band, some rock group or punk rock group, can you be wild and silly all the time and no one would judge you.
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I just don't think I want to live around anyone I'm not romantically drawn to, and at the moment I'm not romantically drawn to anyone.
And usually, outside of college, soxy attractive people don't seek rooms, cause when soxy and attractive either married, have a partner already, or family and or friends don't mind you staying with them.
It's usually dull dry older ugly folks who seek rooms to rent...or people who make poor decisions in life.
And if like it's a female, who's attractive, seeking a room, that only spells trouble, as in 'con', I've read plenty of horror stories about females behave once they move in, sometimes inviting their trouble making boyfriends over, who then steal your stuff ect.
I don't know..
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Post by X factor on Jun 8, 2021 10:56:55 GMT -5
Turned off my phone cause I don't want a roommate right now
I always do this, I lure people, get them wet with the possibility of sharing a place, then I chicken out at the last minute cause I really don't want a roommate.
A roommate would save me from 450-500 a month, that adds up.
I think they're texting me now...what should I do?
That's around 6000.oo in savings over a year, I could for sure use that extra money, yet the idea of sharing place with another is repulsive to me at times.
All I really want is peace, and right now I have total peace within my place, no drama, other than myself.
I'd rather just have a friend, than a roommate, cause at least a friend leaves after a few hours, a roommate is stuck with you.
Years ago, even when I had a family member visit for a few days, I couldn't wait for them to leave, I know that sounds mean, but I'm just use to being alone within place.
I mean if some ones in my place, whom I'm not romantically involved with or starting a family with, than why would I want them in my space?
I don't know...
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Post by X factor on Jun 8, 2021 11:02:32 GMT -5
Would rather have a openly 'gay' roommate than some 'hetero guy' roommate
Why?
Cause even though I'm celibate, but at least having a openly gay roommate, possibly one with a sense of humor, would allow me to relax more and not feel so 'uptight' as far as bounderies go.
With a dull Hetero male roommate, I'd feel all sensitive about what I wore or didn't wear, as to not to offend their sensibilities, it would be like tip toeing around my own place as to not upset their delicate sensibilities of what 'norm' is.
A gay person, with a sense of humor, would be an ideal roommate to me because with such I'd have more 'range'.
But again, I always create these ideal roommates in my mind that just don't exist in the real world.
Cause in reality gay people can be just as mean, cold, bigoted and bias as anyone else.
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Post by X factor on Jun 8, 2021 14:26:48 GMT -5
They called, I answered the phone  I was driving, and they called, I could of ignored the call but said 'nah', and answered the phone. First live contact other than emails ect. And they do sound 'intelligent' and 'articulate', that's a plus, I think. And I think they work at a, well better not say for privacy purposes. Let's just say they work with numbers, but here's the thing, they don't have transportation. Not that everyone has to have wheels, cause many get by just fine without wheels, I mean owning a vehicle can be expensive, even if vehicle paid for, vehicles still cost, insurance, gas, tires, oil changes and more. I'm just surprised I bothered answering the phone, it would of been rude not to. Again, I have to weigh this, and have some time, at least till the weekend when they may come check the place out...so that gives me time, but I'll be in different mindset come the weekend, it would probably have to be on Sunday in that I work for the next 3 days, I think...starting tomorrow that is. And on the 3rd day, as usual, I'll be totally exhausted and spent and in totally different mindset for sure. I could see self charging 450-500 a month, that would be like giving self a raise. What would I do with the savings? I'd save it, that's what. Or maybe get storage, cause if have to clear out back room, where would I put all the stuff? __________________________________________________ Look at how I'm behaving, all nervous and agitated over the idea of sharing a place with someone other than a romantic interest. I just don't know, I just really truly do not know.
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Post by X factor on Jun 10, 2021 2:16:19 GMT -5
I for sure don't want no dern roommate When I come home I need my space, I don't need to feel like I'm sneaking around as to note disturb another person, I just can't live like that, I need my whole, total, complete freedom when home, cause it's the only time I can ever relax and totally be me. As it is I have to spend all day fitting other peoples 'norms', allowing them to 'downsize' me to their own limited understanding of how large I am on the inside and diverse. And with a roommate, unless some out and right totally open, expressive musician type or just some funky artistic gay, straight, Lesbian and everything else type, (people like that don't exist lol), than when in their presences, when home, would once again feel I'd be conforming to their comfort zone and not mine. When home, I need to be artistically free, so I can breathe. And a roommate would just cramp that style in me, believe me I know human nature. I think I'd be better off just making friends, having a guest over every now and then, knowing that they'd leave in a few hours. Or maybe better off getting off butt and getting some side income gig, Uber maybe? But my cars not cool enough, no one would want to be seen in my older model car...  They'd look at their Uber app and see my car and like pass me right up. Not only that but Uber and that other car taxi thing, you're always on 'stand by', I hate being on stand-by, I mean either I'm working, making money, or I'm not...I can't have like a 3 hour gap between rides. Not sure what I'm going to do, but do know I don't want a roommate right now. I'd only want a roommate if they were my romantic interests, as in opposite sox, someone I was going to build a future with. Or maybe even of the same sox, tranny or something, but they'd have to look cute, and I'd have to know they'd spend rest of life with me. But if just some rascal boring drab dude, nah, what fun is that? I'd get agitated in a matter of days.
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Post by X factor on Aug 23, 2021 18:38:58 GMT -5
Yes, roommates still
Just called someone, supposedly a grad student, a teacher of sorts, called them, we spoke, their a bit 'stiff', nerdy, but was impressed with their teaching credentials.
Cause if going to live around someone, if not soxy to me, at least need to be bright and smart and capable of holding conversation.
I sent them some pictures of the place, told them to think about it.
I'm not desperate, nor do I want them to be.
All they can do is save me 45% of monthly expenses, but if turn out to be 'a pain', that won't matter.
But if I can save money, why not....why not, I need to expand and stop being so introverted.
I'll keep you posted on the manner.
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Post by X factor on Aug 24, 2021 9:59:05 GMT -5
Continued from above
Once again, I'm not drunk, I'm sober and when sober I don't really want a roommate I don't know.
They sounded very 'bland' over the phone, and why would not a 'teacher' already have their life in order and be unemployed?
And they say they use to teach at a University..I don't know.
Then I'd have to move stuff out of back room and put it where?
Nah, this isn't going to work.
I mean if I had a love interest, fine, but with no love interest, why?
450 or so extra a month, around 100 extra a week, that won't make me rich.
Phone is off.
I don't know, I never know.
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Post by X factor on Aug 24, 2021 10:00:15 GMT -5
I'm terrible, I always get people excited about a place to move to, then at last minute or next day I change my mind on them.
I must have phycological issues.
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Post by X factor on Dec 12, 2021 17:49:49 GMT -5
I still don't want a roommate, just can't see self staying with another anymore, unless physically attracted to them, if not physically attracted to them they'd just be a pain in the butt, more than likely.
sox appeal soothes much, when living in close quarters with another, the soxier a person looks to you, the more you'll tolerate, but if some ugly bland looking person, then what?
If a male, I'd want them to be soxy and attractive, if a female I'd want them to be soxy and attractive, it would not matter.
Only exeption being if they had a super dynamic personality that made up for their lack of sox appeal.
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Post by X factor on Feb 14, 2022 16:56:43 GMT -5
May outfit extra room just incase  I may outfit extra room just in case, what do I mean by that? It means rent keeps going up, but I'm not ready to move yet, and so until then maybe I should think of ways to reduce my monthly expenses; and one way I can do that is to clear out and fit out extra room for guests. I'd use that guest rental service program, where guest book a place with you just for a few days, then leave, now that I could maybe handle, was on it before but wasn't mature enough for the responsibility that came with it, now however, I think I would be. But instead of going out and spending 1000 dollars on twin beds, drawers, ect, I think buying two air mattresses would suffice...maybe a table, some cheap drawers, and walla, the room would be ready for temporary guests.  And since AirBNB? pays you online, and visiters pay online as well, I wouldn't have to worry about guests leaving without payment. And you can decide how many guests you want (2 max for me, two adults only)(keep it simple) Pets?...maybe a cat. You can pick which days a week room is available and so forth. I could do this, I mean if it could net me even an extra 300 a month that would help out. And then after having guests for a while, then maybe it would open me up to having a permanent roommate, once I got use to having people around again. But I still think a permanent roommate would be a pain after a while. I mean unless soxually attracted to another, why would I, or anyone else, want to live in close proximety to someone not attracted to? I know that sounds snobbish, but it's true. I'm not trying to live in same place as someone I don't find attractive, cause they'd just annoy me after a while, especially if they had other habits I didn't like. The better someone looks to you, the more your able to absorb their other annoyances, usually anyways. Anyways, haven't made up my mind yet. I'd have to sure throw a lot of stuff out, or get storage again, to totally clear out that back room though.
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Post by X factor on Feb 19, 2022 17:13:30 GMT -5
Big mistake, and or sham is when female, looking for a roommate says 'I need a place ASAP, 1 week left in Apt, just recently split up with boyfriend', ect That's a big fat red flag! If a gal just split up with their boyfriend or lover, don't you realize if let said female stay with you that her boyfriend would also be included with that. Break ups, split ups, don't just happen overnight, they can go on for months, even years. The guy can't just shut of emotions like a switch, jealusy and all those emotions still there in him. So if a guy and see this add... jacksonville.craigslist.org/sbw/d/swf-needs-housing-asap/7438194232.html, and dumb enough to respond, I feel sorry for you. I mean even if lady sincere, the minute her ex boyfriend found out she was living with another man or male, rage on his part, he'll be over there like white on rice, and she'll facilitate him as well. There's no better sox than when a couple gets back together, is what they say, and that sox would be taking place in your place while you're at work, or maybe even while there.
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Post by X factor on Feb 19, 2022 17:16:19 GMT -5
The whole roommate thing seems appealing until you start looking at those who need a place to stay, then it becomes less appealing.
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Post by X factor on Feb 19, 2022 17:17:20 GMT -5
By me just cutting out beer, and shopping less for food, eating less, right there alone, those two things just about save the same amount of money I'd save by having a roommate, without the headache.
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Post by X factor on Feb 19, 2022 17:22:27 GMT -5
I just can't see myself living with another in a small place unless I find them physically attractive
Just not trying to share place with someone I can't make out with every now and then, or someone I don't find attractive.
I use to swing both ways, or open to it, or at least honest about sox appeal within both soxes.
Just not trying to room with a ugly female or male.
Or some older, crusty, post soxual type who has forgotten about style, why would I want to live around that?
I'm not super young myself, but still I care about my appearance and not trying to torture anyone with my ugliness.
And if I had a male roommate, it would have to be someone who wasn't hyper homophobic, people like that are super dull and boring to room with.
Not that I'm full blown gay, but if had a roommate, I'd want someone who was playful, who didn't mind wrestling and being silly every now and then, and usually people like that are bi-soxual or gay.
Openly gay are the best roommates to have, closet gay types are very emotionally unsturdy and always battling their inner demons.
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Post by X factor on Feb 19, 2022 17:24:11 GMT -5
And I'd never want to live around some religious type, talk about dreadfully boring.
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