So let me get this straight...even though blacks in the SE always complain about 'whites not accepting us, treating us equal'...you yourself have no issue or problem with turning around and discriminating against other people of color, or lighter skinned black folks?
That makes no sense...that's hyprocritical...you want whites to accept you for being black, but you yourself can't accept others for being light?...please do explain...
Last Edit: Jan 2, 2014 15:04:33 GMT -5 by X factor
There is no 'black on black' pride no where...Black dolls stuck together in the 60's cause we had to, cause there was no other choice, racist white dolls kept us all bottled together, so we, black dolls, learned to get along as a matter of survival.
That's why as soon as white doll segregation ended, black on black crime began to sky rocket.
I think the further away you're raised from the colonial urban south, as a black doll, the healthier your mind will be, less internally damaged.
That damage projects itself out onto other dolls of color...
I notice in the South East, many bf dolls still have that 'Aunt Jemima's pancake maid attitudes towards W-Dolls...
You know, back when W-dolls trusted bloated female B-dolls to raise their kids, cook food, be the third hand of the family or plantation.
You can observe this at any customer service counter where b-dolls practically shout out 'Ye Sir!!, Good day Sir/Ma'am' to w-dolls...yet let a b-doll walk up in line and that same Aunt Jemima's b-doll suddenly looses all manners, and becomes hostile, like 'Whatch u want sucka?'
The self loathing is on full display for all to see...only the w-dolls like it, think it's normal...but interperspective b-dolls see the blatant sickness in it all.
Nothing wrong with being polite and courteous, but be so to all, don't withdraw that courtesy do to inner disdane and hatred of self, simply cause someone walks up to counter that reflects your image.
I'd be happier moving to Montana around cowboys, than living around the social damaged minds of so many raised in the colonial SE....
Last Edit: Feb 28, 2014 17:21:21 GMT -5 by X factor
Although true, b-dolls have been stigmatized since setting foot on this continent as slaves, fast forward to modern day, and much of how we perceive each other today, has to do with the upside down value system many in the lower economic b-doll community embraces, which actually has a more negative impact on other blck dolls than it does w-dolls.
Most W-dolls don't have to live all up in the projects, or rougher areas of town, don't have to sleep next to ex-felons, and have crack heads peeping in their back window.
So the dark behavior of many in the B-doll community effects B-dolls more than W-dolls, and proablly explains some of the self hate and hostility projected from one B-doll to another, it's done out of fear and resentment.
The problem of self hate will never ever go away, it's to big to solve.
Humans, regardless of color, are to flawed to ever be fair, and that's just the fact.
The only solution, I believe, lies in spiritualism, where one rises above flesh, and sees things as 'God' would, with fairness and love, and redemption in mind.
Humans are good at condemning, we love to condemn, forgiveness, acceptance, comes hard for the flesh, regardless of color.
One must ask God almighty, the holy spirit, to come into thy heart, in order to totally re arrange the typical human thought process. One must see the big picture, and it's hard to see the selfless big picture without seeking salvation, and admitting that all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.
All have been condemned, regardless of color.
Only Jesus can remove hatred from the heart, and allow one to receive another based on merit, not color or hidden bigotry.
Most blck female dolls despise blck male dolls, cause I'd say 75% or so, grow up in areas where they see the worst type of character traits displayed by B-male dolls.
And if that's all you've ever seen, is the worst, than you have nothing else to contrast it with.
If the worst is ones whole environment, than that environment becomes their reality, and effects their perception of everyone and everything they do, down to behavior.
So if female has been raised in environment where all males act like gangstas and rappers, and pimps, and are irresponsible cheaters, than when they grow up, they just assume all are like that, no matter if you're a Doctor or a Pilot or a Engineer, a female who has been damaged while young, by being raised in such an environment, won't even know how to relate to a 'normal' well adjusted black male doll.
Although I know Paul was being a smart alec by saying 'Don't blame your mental illness on me', in a way they're right, it does become a mental illness when one is not able to sort out mental flaws they have about self or others.