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Post by X factor on Feb 12, 2014 7:06:10 GMT -5
Destructive comfort zones
Our own comfort zones can sometimes suck the life out of us, slowly but surely.
I'm sure most have heard how when a barn catches fire, the horses stabled inside will often run back inside the burning barn, cause it's their 'comfort zone'.
Sadly, humans do the same, maybe not in as dramatic of a way, but none the less, humans do the same.
We stay in a sad or harmful situation cause although bad for us it's within our 'comfort zone'.
This destructive comfort zone can come in many forms from work, relationship, medications, religion, culture, social environment and more.
Destructive comfort zones are like a death cage, and kill our own prosperity.
Breaking out of destructive comfort zones means taking risks, going without a job for a while, being single for a while, having social schedual disrupted for a while.
But usually better things await on the other side of that uncertainty.
A destructive comfort zone is being content going down with a sinking ship, the ship sinks slowly, so we fool ourselves into thinking everything will be ok, when it actually won't.
Life and wit, had better use it while you still can.
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Post by X factor on Feb 12, 2014 21:00:15 GMT -5
Destructive comfort zones come in many different forms. And one of the forms it comes in is when we stop learning new things that will help us achieve better results. For instance learning the admin, business, side of whatever it is we do. If one drives a fork lift, why not learn about warehouse management, if one drives a truck, why not learn about 'freight forwarding', or being a broker, if ones a cashier at store, why not learn about inventory control or take business classes which will allow one to go from check out clerk to manager. These are just a few example. A destructive comfort zone can be when one is totally content with just doing manual, brainless labor and receiving a check. I think it's in the nature of most to want to learn and progress all throughout life, even when others don't think you should or have potential to. When we loose that drive to excel, and get ahead in life, or simply maximize self talent, a big part of us dies. Comfort zones can be deadly, lead to depression, and even shorten life spans, cause when you're unhappy you don't live as long...the body stops fighting, immune weakens, and disease occurs. When you get out of school, you quickly realize no one will push you unless you push yourself, most are happy, need you to stay in 'your place', so that they can shine instead of you. The warehouse manager is perfectly content with forklift driver driving forklift for 30 years, rather than continuing education...  But are you? |
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Post by X factor on Apr 15, 2017 1:40:12 GMT -5
I'm breaking out of a destructive comfort zone, and the transition can be scary and uncertain, especially if have to do with employment.
But living on the edge of poverty leads to nothing, so had to make a move while still can, while health allows me to, and while door was open.
There's always doubt, especially if enjoying schedule old job provided, but working full time and always being broke leads to bad habits, cause you come home and all you can really afford to do is drink, and can basically only live off credit.
Time will tell if this is a better move, but as long as earn more, nearly twice as much, and once again 'challenged', than I think it will have been the right move.
It was time to move on.
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Post by X factor on Mar 17, 2019 20:51:40 GMT -5
I'll admit, I'm stuck in 'destructive comfort zone' right now, and anything outside of that zone is like oblivious to me.
As such, I no longer social grow much.
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Post by X factor on Mar 17, 2019 20:53:50 GMT -5
I'll admit, I'm stuck in 'destructive comfort zone' right now, and anything outside of that zone is like oblivious to me. As such, I no longer social grow much. A hug, your being honest so helps others. I know my hug doesn't mean much, but honesty is better, more like medicine than bragging about having degree or this or that. Honesty helps others to heal....now come here so I can hug you....... |
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Post by X factor on Mar 17, 2019 20:55:51 GMT -5
I'll admit, I'm stuck in 'destructive comfort zone' right now, and anything outside of that zone is like oblivious to me. As such, I no longer social grow much. A hug, your being honest so helps others. I know my hug doesn't mean much, but honesty is better, more like medicine than bragging about having degree or this or that. Honesty helps others to heal....now come here so I can hug you....... No, your breath stinks  Just hobbitding, no actually I'm not, but thanks anyways...time for bed. |
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Post by X factor on Jul 21, 2020 21:19:07 GMT -5
This is my home and it's dinner time  This is my home, and I'm comfortable here, cause the people here are as odd, safe and harmless as I am. It's dinner time, we all gather, rejects that we are, forgotten about, already dead, yet still breathing. This is my home, and I really never want to leave, not sure if I ever could now. Won't you please sit down and have dinner with us.
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Post by X factor on Aug 3, 2020 1:42:59 GMT -5
I'm going to lay down now, for only tomorrow can fix me.
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Post by X factor on Aug 19, 2020 15:10:21 GMT -5
My personal H_ll is right around the corner to me
My personal hell is right around the corner to me, which means I have to 'step out' and into the world soon.
That's my hell to me right now, I get zero value whenever I have to leave my place, for others it's just the opposite, good for them.
But when I leave my place, my own personal world ends, and then I just become some one, or others peoples void character with no meaning, depth or purpose.
It's all a sham to me, people need other people to step on it seems, rather than to help and see value in.
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Post by X factor on Aug 24, 2021 9:54:25 GMT -5
Some times you secretly wish something semi catistropic would occur just to knock you off course Some times some find themselves kind of wishing something bad would happen, just to knock them off of their self destructive course. And self destructive doesn't have to mean physically destructive, it can mean phycological, or routine, or lack of enthusiasm. Like here's a more main stream example. You're making house payments, should of never financed the house, steep in debt, all is bad until a tree falls on your house.  Seems bad at first, but deep down inside you feel liberated, cause now can break from dreaded norm, dreaded routine, and begin new path. That's what I mean, some times a comet has to land in front of you before you'll change path for the better.
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Post by X factor on May 18, 2022 9:54:59 GMT -5
Right now I'm in a comfort zone  Right now I'm in a comfort zone, and that comfort zone is that I'm content. I'm content to stay small, content to only worry about myself, and my next meal. I'm content not worrying about the affairs of this world. I'm content being invisible. I'm just content, but I know that's a symptom to maybe just giving up, maybe just tired of my efforts going no where, so it's much less calory burning to just be content and accept that I'm a nobody and never will. Why should I fight that fact? If this is what fate wants, than this is what fate shall get, why should I fight fate?
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Post by X factor on Jun 6, 2022 13:43:59 GMT -5
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Post by X factor on Jul 10, 2022 15:33:25 GMT -5
Why should I like women?
They dress funny, dress themselves up funny, act stuck up and never talk to you.
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Post by X factor on Apr 11, 2023 13:13:30 GMT -5
 I think this is what I am on the inside, a phoenix. |
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