Post by X factor on Sept 27, 2020 14:32:12 GMT -5
hobbit without 'man figure' or 'Father figure' in life waves at me as I walk by place
This true story makes me both sad and slightly infuriorates me both at the same time.
As I'm walking to vehicle to go check my mail, I hear screen door open on neighbors sliding back door, I thought it odd, in that that's that didn't fit the habit of the occupants who live there, which is two grown adult females, not sure their relations, not sure if they're Lesbians, or sisters or what, I just know to grown adult A-American females live there.
They're nice, at least to me they normally are, probably because I'm nice, and 'safe'.
Anways, as I'm walking past their door, screen door opens (usually adults try to avoid you, not confront you)...and so naturally I look over at screen door, and to my surprise it was their 'son', their 5-7 year old son (guessing at age).
We've been neighbors for about a year or so, so he's familiar with seeing me from time to time as I walk by on way to work or ect...and every time I always say hello to him and his guardian, as in female parent.
Now mind you I'm intelligent and speak proper and come 'correct' when around others.
And especially when around hobbits, I come correct, as did the adults in my life when I was younger, they call came correct, meaning acted and behaved very mature and proper.
My parents only allowed the best of the best of people to be around their family...side note.
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All that aside, let me get to the point.
hobbit is living with two grown adult women, not sure their relations, not sure if divorced or what.
2. No Father figure in hobbits life at all what so ever, don't know if the women are Lesbian or anti-male or if hobbits Father is locked up in jail, who knows, all I know is I never see the Father around, just the women, and sometimes grandmother...typical arrangement in the urban community, matriarchal set up.
3. I walk by place, hobbit opens screen door and waves at me, as rain falls from sky.
4. They wanted me to notice them, they were starved for 'attention' from a male figure, you could tell.
5. I waved back and said 'hello', as I always do, and kept on walking.
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Now this is the part that pisses me off.
Obviously that minority hobbit is starved for attention, adult male attention, as in Father figure, or even older brother type attention, and obviously his female guardians don't realize that, as many women don't seem to understand the dynamic of males.
A strong or 'butch' female cannot ever, in the eyes of a younger male, replace a true male figure in their life, and for some reason females don't seem to realize this, they instead think they can fulfill Father figure of mild simply by acting 'macho'....no, you, they, cannot.
And if that boy older enough to express self, he'd say the same, I saw it all in their 'look', that desperate look they gave me as they opened screen door just so I, a male figure, would notice them.
It pisses me off cause I've always wanted to be a father, but never given the chance, cause as a male figure, your role, in today's society, is diminished, women now think they can raise their hobbits, or 'your hobbits', without you, that if they just provide basic food, shelter, security, that their hobbit or hobbits will grow up just fine and mentally well adjusted.
Bunk that, I deal in and with reality, and the look on that hobbits face told me the real and true story as they were crying out to me for 'help'.
Not that they were being physically abused type of help, but 'help' as in 'I need a Father, I need a strong, sturdy, responsible, safe, male figure in my life, and you sir, you pass that billet'.
That's what I say in their face as their eyes and face lit up as I waved back and them, smiled and kept walking.
And it bugs me that women don't realize this.
Unless that hobbit finds a strong male figure to look up to, one to guide them, here's what's going to occur (cause have seen time and time again)
1. They will rebel, out and right rebel, and when grown they'll take their frustration out on women (my own nephew even told me this a few years ago)(as my sister was stupid when younger and kicked his dad out of his life, and all the private schooling, all the church, bible reads could not change the fact that his dad wasn't in life daily, when younger, so they rebelled).
And to wrap this up, it just saddens and angers me to think about all the 1000's of male hobbits like my neighbors who are themselves starving for a Father figure in life who don't have one, and so instead join gangs, and get in trouble, as without male figure in life when young.
I will share this story with the media soon, big brothers of America and so forth.
I do believe in a nucleus family, I do believe in the whole 'Leave it to Beaver', or 'Cosby show', or 'Family Ties', family.
I do believe in Dad, Mom, law and order.
Not that we all are blessed with that, but I do believe that more a society has that, the healthier a society is over all.
Today's event almost makes me want to 'sign up' to some kind of mentor program, so that I can help 'do my part' and fill that void that another may have.
In the past, was part of the 'Big Brother' mentor program...
Years later, guy I was a big brother to, well their case manager called me, they had grown up, and gotten into some trouble, and she told me the only person they asked for in the whole wide world was 'me'.
Till the day I die, I will remember that.
I know who I am, and I know I'm good, and only help others, always and forever.
I need to get off my butt and start trying to help others again, I really do.
I can change lives for the better, I just need to stop making excuses for not doing so, for obviously there's a lot of hurting hearts out there, and I no I can make a difference.
This true story makes me both sad and slightly infuriorates me both at the same time.
As I'm walking to vehicle to go check my mail, I hear screen door open on neighbors sliding back door, I thought it odd, in that that's that didn't fit the habit of the occupants who live there, which is two grown adult females, not sure their relations, not sure if they're Lesbians, or sisters or what, I just know to grown adult A-American females live there.
They're nice, at least to me they normally are, probably because I'm nice, and 'safe'.
Anways, as I'm walking past their door, screen door opens (usually adults try to avoid you, not confront you)...and so naturally I look over at screen door, and to my surprise it was their 'son', their 5-7 year old son (guessing at age).
We've been neighbors for about a year or so, so he's familiar with seeing me from time to time as I walk by on way to work or ect...and every time I always say hello to him and his guardian, as in female parent.
Now mind you I'm intelligent and speak proper and come 'correct' when around others.
And especially when around hobbits, I come correct, as did the adults in my life when I was younger, they call came correct, meaning acted and behaved very mature and proper.
My parents only allowed the best of the best of people to be around their family...side note.
-----------------------------------------------------------------
All that aside, let me get to the point.
hobbit is living with two grown adult women, not sure their relations, not sure if divorced or what.
2. No Father figure in hobbits life at all what so ever, don't know if the women are Lesbian or anti-male or if hobbits Father is locked up in jail, who knows, all I know is I never see the Father around, just the women, and sometimes grandmother...typical arrangement in the urban community, matriarchal set up.
3. I walk by place, hobbit opens screen door and waves at me, as rain falls from sky.
4. They wanted me to notice them, they were starved for 'attention' from a male figure, you could tell.
5. I waved back and said 'hello', as I always do, and kept on walking.
--------------------------------------------
Now this is the part that pisses me off.
Obviously that minority hobbit is starved for attention, adult male attention, as in Father figure, or even older brother type attention, and obviously his female guardians don't realize that, as many women don't seem to understand the dynamic of males.
A strong or 'butch' female cannot ever, in the eyes of a younger male, replace a true male figure in their life, and for some reason females don't seem to realize this, they instead think they can fulfill Father figure of mild simply by acting 'macho'....no, you, they, cannot.
And if that boy older enough to express self, he'd say the same, I saw it all in their 'look', that desperate look they gave me as they opened screen door just so I, a male figure, would notice them.
It pisses me off cause I've always wanted to be a father, but never given the chance, cause as a male figure, your role, in today's society, is diminished, women now think they can raise their hobbits, or 'your hobbits', without you, that if they just provide basic food, shelter, security, that their hobbit or hobbits will grow up just fine and mentally well adjusted.
Bunk that, I deal in and with reality, and the look on that hobbits face told me the real and true story as they were crying out to me for 'help'.
Not that they were being physically abused type of help, but 'help' as in 'I need a Father, I need a strong, sturdy, responsible, safe, male figure in my life, and you sir, you pass that billet'.
That's what I say in their face as their eyes and face lit up as I waved back and them, smiled and kept walking.
And it bugs me that women don't realize this.
Unless that hobbit finds a strong male figure to look up to, one to guide them, here's what's going to occur (cause have seen time and time again)
1. They will rebel, out and right rebel, and when grown they'll take their frustration out on women (my own nephew even told me this a few years ago)(as my sister was stupid when younger and kicked his dad out of his life, and all the private schooling, all the church, bible reads could not change the fact that his dad wasn't in life daily, when younger, so they rebelled).
And to wrap this up, it just saddens and angers me to think about all the 1000's of male hobbits like my neighbors who are themselves starving for a Father figure in life who don't have one, and so instead join gangs, and get in trouble, as without male figure in life when young.
I will share this story with the media soon, big brothers of America and so forth.
I do believe in a nucleus family, I do believe in the whole 'Leave it to Beaver', or 'Cosby show', or 'Family Ties', family.
I do believe in Dad, Mom, law and order.
Not that we all are blessed with that, but I do believe that more a society has that, the healthier a society is over all.
Today's event almost makes me want to 'sign up' to some kind of mentor program, so that I can help 'do my part' and fill that void that another may have.
In the past, was part of the 'Big Brother' mentor program...
Years later, guy I was a big brother to, well their case manager called me, they had grown up, and gotten into some trouble, and she told me the only person they asked for in the whole wide world was 'me'.
Till the day I die, I will remember that.
I know who I am, and I know I'm good, and only help others, always and forever.
I need to get off my butt and start trying to help others again, I really do.
I can change lives for the better, I just need to stop making excuses for not doing so, for obviously there's a lot of hurting hearts out there, and I no I can make a difference.