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Post by X factor on May 16, 2021 13:01:46 GMT -5
Afro-American dating and Romance, issues and more  Most of the TV shows of the 90's depicted educated 'blacks' in relationships, basically 'black versions of the white TV show 'Friends', where college educated professional black men and woman worked life issues out together in generic way, but is that really how things are on the 'street level' within black areas?, (or even white areas as far as that goes) We'll take a closer look at dating and romance in today's society among those who consider themselves 'black' (Which is really a broad umbrella term as we shall soon discover)
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Post by X factor on Jun 12, 2021 11:54:37 GMT -5
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Post by X factor on Jun 12, 2021 12:15:52 GMT -5
Yep, seems like all the males acted wild, when younger, now have hobbits, even grandhobbits, who love them. I mean now days even people in their 40's and early 50's are grandparents, it's not like the olden days when society viewed grandparents as being old and wooden and in their 70's. Some become grandparents even while in their mid 30's!! But all that aside, to some, it's the men who rolled around in the grass, who now that older, are reaping the rewards of their loose behavior. Where as the well behaved guys, from back then, got ignored by women, and are now considered gay. How sad is that.
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Post by X factor on Jun 12, 2021 12:19:38 GMT -5
Yep, seems like all the males acted wild, when younger, now have hobbits, even grandhobbits, who love them. I mean now days even people in their 40's and early 50's are grandparents, it's not like the olden days when society viewed grandparents as being old and wooden and in their 70's. Some become grandparents even while in their mid 30's!! But all that aside, to some, it's the men who rolled around in the grass, who now that older, are reaping the rewards of their loose behavior. Where as the well behaved guys, from back then, got ignored by women, and are now considered gay. How sad is that. Also now that these men are older, they're no longer attracted to the women of their age who are now fat and look 'odd' to them, and now want them as 'left overs'...meaning the women, now that older, want to be charmed and loved as if still 19 and have something to offer that man. Well now that 'that man' is older, and you look like his Mother, why would he want you?, when you ignored 'that man' in their prime, and failed to give 'that man' a family of his own, and instead slept with 'hoods' from around the block...you got what you wanted 'woman'!, and now think the man you ignored when they were in their prime should still be attracted to you? |
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Post by X factor on Jul 16, 2024 19:25:29 GMT -5
As a older B male, I just can't see myself falling for a younger B woman, here's why
At least where I stay, B women just aren't in it for the long haul.
You never hear about marriage anymore or engagements, within the younger urban B community.
All you hear about is 'who's the dad?'.
It's like once the B woman gets pregnant, the cycle is over, or may continue a while longer while both couples still lust for one another.
I just don't see black lovers anymore...I never, in over a decade, see Dad, Mom, hobbits, all shopping together.
I just don't see intact family units, where I stay, in the B community, the younger generation at least.
Yeah, I have a decent looking sports car, but to me, if a younger B woman shows interest in me they're thinking is.
'How can I get that sports car from that man'
And maybe white women think that way to, I don't know...I just know with my eyes I see white women in it for the long haul, whereas black women, seems the minute something goes wrong, they kick you out their life...with all this 'I don't need no man' stuff...but they sure need the government and my tax dollars.
Older black women are another thing, cause they're more settled, of course, but the younger ones, at least if bred in the city and on rap music, nah, nothing but fiscal troubles for me and emotional ones as well.
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Post by X factor on Jul 16, 2024 19:32:56 GMT -5
You can't just change years, decades of conditioning of anyone overnight.
And I just don't think B women, at least blue collar street level ones, are conditioned, anymore, for long term healthy relationships.
Black women tend to date down, is why where ever a lot of black women rent apartments, look at the men who come trolling around at night.
It's never doctors, or firemen or a bank manager or a Boeing employer, engineer, etc, instead black women always bring home neighborhood thugs.
Always bring home the pants sagging thug, the thug with the odd pippi long stocking hair, or white tank top shirt.
Why?
I think black women date down, cause they don't ever plan on staying with these guys or men, they just like the sox, the attention, etc, or the status that comes in da hood from dating such types.
Sorry, but now days, most black women, urban raised ones who didn't go to college, have no idea what a real man is, cause most were, like their brothers, raised without a dad in the home.
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Post by X factor on Sept 19, 2024 23:18:30 GMT -5
'Dating site', came up on my 'to do list'...hmm...to late at night for that.
And, well, I've never had much luck on those sites...and with AI everywhere, no telling how much you're carded out by endlessly buying more time chasing a robot.
You know, always sending you 'winks', etc, but never interested in actually talking.
I think the best dating site I've ever used was 'quest personals'...they've been around for over a decade and there's live chat, as in if other members happen to be on the phone, in the phone pool, you can request to chat with them.
But it costs, it's not free, but what I like about Quest personals is that it's local, and at least you know you're talking to real people.
But I haven't used it in years, and I'm sure like most other sites, scammers have snaked their way into Quest personal as well.
Scammers always ruin it for everyone, they sure do.
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Post by X factor on Nov 18, 2024 21:32:24 GMT -5
Thinking about signing up for a dating line here soon I think I may join a dating site...it's been years since I've tried one. Or I'll start the process and just get so turned off that I stop. I hate feeling like a piece of meet, I hate template type of fill in the box questionnaires when most people exist in between the lines, not right on them. But I don't think I'll ever feel fulfilled or happy unless I'm paired with someone. It's probably to late for me to have any hobbits, the lady would have to be way younger than me...so that being said, does gender even matter anymore if raising a family is no longer an option?? If not planning on having hobbits with the one you're with, does it matter if it's a cute female or a cute male who's my mate?? That would be a good podcast topic. So anyways, about to check out some dating sites, maybe I'll join more than one. But again, I always say this until I start the sign up process and usually get turned off and quit. We shall see.
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