Black males vs White males

Why are black males in the hood areas socially trained to just look so ugly and gdm blanned?

I went to corner store today, and on the way back in, the most ugliest, psycho faced, short, B dude was coming out the door..who made them that way?

It wasn't just their physical look, but also their expression, a learned expression, who or what made them that way?

One of many bad things about being a 'B' male in America, and I mean a good decent one, not a open street thug type, but say a 'normal' adult college graduate 'B' male, the bad thing is is wherever you go, initially everyone tenses up and thinks that 'you' think that you're tough, when you don't, you simply are shopping, or at the fair, or the Zoo, or entering a store or whatever, but whether the person white, black, Hispanic, male or female and all in between, they all tense up and treat you like you think you're tough, when on the inside being tough, acting tough, is the last thing on your mind, you just want to know which cake is the best one to buy.

And its done by all people, not just 'W' people, it's done by Hispanics, and others as well, even by other black folks, or black on black hostility.

People are just conditioned to think that if you're an adult healthy B male, that you must think you're tough, and so they respond by tensing up, frowning, talking ghetto, being rude, ect.

Oh well, there's nothing I can do about it, all I can do is point it out here.

Black males don't make very good 'twinks', which is a term used to describe younger, then, petite male figure with smooth skin, a bit weak and nerdy.

White twinks actually look cute, but black males aren't good at playing that 'cute role'.

When I think of B males, no matter the age, I think of tough, gritty and emotionally hardened, very course, incapable of being soft.

That's both societies fault and do to how black males market themselves through pop culture.

White males just have a much wider range of expression, at least when younger, as in college aged.
White males can be cute, soft, fluffy, funny, submissive, stern, handsome, smart, and more.

But seems black males just market selves as course skinned, course hearted thugs who are alpha and never cry.

And sadly I think that works against them on all levels of life, other than maybe in prison or in the hood.

Because I interact with both regularly at work and in public, I can say this as a observational fact.

And that is typically, the under 30 white guys I deal with are just way more out going than the black guys I deal with.

White guys, for whatever reason, are just better conversationalist, and seem more confident in whatever it is they're talking about.

And I'm wondering if that comes from the home, and typically just having a Father there when younger.

Males matter...you can see this even in athletes, the draft, the NFL draft.

You can see how much more mature those athletes are, cause even though many do come from single homes still, but the difference is, is they played sports, thus they always had a strong male figure in their life as in 'the coach'....

Well the majority of urban black males don't have such a strong coach or male figure in their life and I see the effects daily....cause they're so much less outgoing, never have anything positive to talk about, other than small hood chatter...they're never curious about math, or inventing things, or engineering, instead they've adopted this 'hustle' mindset, criminal mindset, get money quick, mindset, by hurting others, and laughing about it.

Manhood, to younger B males, seems to be based on how many people you can physically hurt and not care about it.
And when not in that 'hood mode', seems they just don't have much to say, even when older.

And I observe this daily.

But younger white males, again, they're just more talkative, or at least willing to talk to you about a variety of stuff if engaged.

That's just what I observe, why is that?

Parents or lack of?...and yes, I say parents as in both Dad and Mom.

Are urban males hurt by not having sturdy, morally decent Dads when younger?

Of course they are, and do not the Mothers realize this? Do the Mothers even care?
Do the mothers see all the crimes and murders their teenage and adult sons are committing all throughout society?

Then they, the mothers, blame the police when they respond, then they, the mothers, blame the police when they don't respond.

Like the Chief of Police of Atlanta said last week, who is a black man, he said 'The Police can't raise your hobbits for you'..and he was right.

These mothers, who keep unleashing this onto the streets need to be held responsible, call it neglect, whatever, but they, these mothers, who keep raising sons who then join gangs, and kill people, shoot people, these mothers need to be held to account, and even the daralect fathers who aren't around.

Hard for me to cheer the birth of a urban baby, when in the back of my mind I'm thinking all they're going to do is grow up to be a criminal and hurt dozens of people do to not being raised properly.

Just read the headlines in any city this morning and you'll see what I mean.

www.msn.com/en-us/news/crime/trenteon-king-taken-into-custody-after-being-busted-for-shoplifting/ar-AAWLnp6?ocid=msedgntp&cvid=6c1f0691bd934082bea4cd394559037d

Same crap every day, but at least this headline isn't a violent one, but still, every day, hundreds of crime headlines of black males, younger ones, plastered all over the news, and they all have biological mothers.

'As a black male'

As a black male I cringe every time I have to go into a store where the people are not familuar with me, I totally cringe, cause from the time I walk in until the time I leave, can just feel the eyeballs watching.

This coming from someone who has never shopplifted before ever, and never plan on it, not cause of the cops, but due to my own value system.
But when in public, doesn't matter, if a black male you're percieved a certain way, period end of story.

Question - With all the high profile smash and grabs is such scrutiny warranted?

Answer - Not towards me it isn't, and I get tired of always being expected to bear the burden of bias, 'because' of whatever.

Screw that, I get one life and my quality of life does matter, just like with everyone else.

No older W person would like walking into a store and automatically being reduced to a petty shoplifter 'just because'.

It's not a good feeling, especially as you get older and start wanted a bit of respect.

But learning as a black person, male, that respect probably will never come.

And I blame both just the nature of man for that and I blame all these younger b dudes and their parents for not raising them right, cause all they're doing by acting up is reinforcing societal strereotypes and people behind the scenes simply whisper or say 'I told you so, I told you those people were like that'.

Wow, black men are soxy if they sing like this

B youth, young males, spend first part of life terrorizing everyone around them, then when get older, and mature a bit, wonder why society freaked out 'over you', and don't want you living in their neighborhood.

White males just don't have that problem, and just seem to have better sense when younger.