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Post by X factor on Sept 1, 2013 9:33:54 GMT -5
You are not 'gay' if or just because... (this same line or reasoning can apply to either gender, although women in the West already tend to have broader latitude of interaction between each other that falls within accepted Hetro behavior) 1. You're a male and like to feel 'beautiful'. 2. You're a male and like receiving hugs, from anyone. 3. You're a male and like to cross dress from time to time. 4. You're a male and sometimes describe other males as 'cute'. 5. You're a male and other people suggest you're 'gay' because of your style. You are not 'gay' if or just because of the above. 6. You're not gay, just because of other peoples narrow definition of self expression. 7. You're not gay, if you see nothing wrong with having gay friends. 8. You're not gay, if you happen to like yogurt...  9. You're not gay, if you're a male, and like wearing shorts that come above your knees. 10. You're not gay, if you're a male, and have long hair. 11. You're not gay, if you're a male, and happen to look or talk feminine. 12. You're not gay, if you're a male and enjoy soap operas.  In conclusion...sadly, a lot of times people are told they're gay, when they're really not, do to anothers narrow definition of what it is to be a male. (applies to females to, but females are allowed a much wider range of expression, style, roles, and dress, all within heterosoxuality's frame work, where as what it is to be male is defined in a much narrow manner) And depending on ones ethnicity and or culture, it can be even more narrow than general populations. For example, white males are allowed a much wider, broader range of expression within 'hetrosoxuality' than black males are, or Hispanic males. Seems the higher up a culture is on the generic social ladder, the more 'range' they're allowed by all. 13. You're not gay, if you're a male, and enjoy roller blading or ice skating or gymnastics. 14. Your're not gay, if you're a male, and enjoy gardening. 15. You're not gay, if you're a male, and describe yourself as 'pretty' instead of 'handsome'. And you're not gay just because you think you might be, based on other peoples suggestions. So then, you may be asking or thinking 'Well how does one determine if they're really gay or not?' The answer to that question will not be discussed or explained here. |
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Post by X factor on May 12, 2014 17:16:59 GMT -5
Some people are caught in between both worlds of gay and straight.
For example what if you're to hetro to fully be accepted by the gay class, yet the hetro class considers you to 'gay' or 'gayish' for them to fully embrace you...then what?
Why do things even have to be defined like that to begin with?
The more money you have, the higher your social status, the less it really matters...for to others your wealth and fame trumps your orientation or compliments it.
But the more income poor one is, the more they are ridiculed and ostracized over their perceived orientation.
If you're a millionaire, people really don't care if you're gay or not, or perceived as such, but if you're poor, and living in a hood, or living in some back country rural John Deer town, then it does matter to others more.
Red necks and urban thugs, are probably the two class of men who are the most insecure about 'orientation'.
Affluent younger white males, are probably the most accepting, when it comes to orientation diversity.
Black females love white feminine types, but don't like black guys who are gay or 'cute'...they see them as competition.
Same with white rural females from the sticks, they see younger white gay types as competition.
Believe it or not a lot of homophobic hysteria is fed by hetro females behind the scenes, who stir things up by suggesting things.
I've been around both gay males and hetro males, and as far as looks, and over all 'class'...for whatever reason gay males tend to carry themselves in a better more sophisticated light, where as many older hetro males totally let themselves go, cause they live their other 'feminine' side through women, as such usually let selves morph into ungroomed orcs or trolls.
Gay males tend to display both masculine and feminine traits, and their feminine side is what I believe, makes them take care of their appearance much better than hetro males.
At least certain types anyways.
There's many many layers to this subject, we'll explore more in the future.
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Post by X factor on May 12, 2014 17:41:28 GMT -5
 Orientation is kind of like the color spectrum in that it is vast. Most people simple learn to suppress or ignore their inclinations do to religion or other social influences. Not to mention there could be many reasons a guy isn't attracted to a woman and a woman isn't attracted to a guy. Style, behavior, attitude and other even hard wired desires. Just like some people are hardwired to have 'foot fetish'...yet no one with a foot fetish ever asked to have it, you're just born with that type of fetish...others are hardwired to desire a womans 'b__bs'...again that's not something you learn or are taught, if one is a male either b--bs' have always turned them on or they do not. Same with the 'butt'...some guys crave 'da butt'...the wider, the bigger, the better, as far as their concerned. To some guys, women, expecially urban woman with over done features, can seem ' freakish to them. If you're a guy raised in rural area, around practical farm type women, or tomboyish women who milk cows, ride horse, raise chickens, then suddenly go to city where women have long impractical nails and can't cook, where heavy make up and all...that can seem freakish and be a big turn off.  I mean some guys just aren't use to this...not even all black guys are use to this. Not all black guys are raised in urban areas, so for instance a black male from Montana, might be totally turned off by such a woman, who to him might appear as an alien from another planet...  We have no idea of knowing how people perceive each other, or why one male may be turned off by females in certain area, and why women may be turned off by males. There's lot's of variables here from abuse, neglect, style, body type, rejection, lonliness and so forth. What if a woman is in her 40's and no male has ever showed interest in her?...she's 40 and alone and lonely, then suddenly another woman shows interest? When someone is lonely, the pain of lonliness, not being loved or valued, will make one open up to affection from even a Komodo dragon. People in happy, loving, hetro relationships, marriages, have no idea what it's like to be alone, rejected by opposite gender and without hope, until someone comes along and shows affection to you, when no one else, out of billions, would not. Again, there's many many layers to this subject, and we'll continue to explore them as time permits... |
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Post by X factor on Nov 17, 2018 15:49:43 GMT -5
Your soxual identity described here...according to this author...link <<<< link...
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Post by X factor on Jan 10, 2019 20:38:14 GMT -5
Here's the thing about 'me' this or 'I'
Here's the thing about 'me', this or 'I', is that I just think everyone has the capacity to be beautiful, whether male or female, black or white, Asian or Hispanic, Islander or more.
I dig nice clean souls...I dig souls, who happen to be stuck in 'the flesh' whom otherwise might be angels.
I know I know, in 2019 people want you to pic sides...well I don't.
The only side or sides I pick or those who are kind.
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Post by X factor on Jan 10, 2019 20:41:12 GMT -5
I meet and greet the most handsome, most beautiful people in society, on daily basis, but they, you, don't realize it...cause of this flaw, or that flaw.
But I notice, I see....and thank you for simply being you....no earthly real reward for that, sad to say.
But the Zone, here and now, simply says thanks for being decent...your blessing may come in other ways you may not immediately recognize.
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Post by X factor on Feb 23, 2019 12:30:52 GMT -5
I don't know what I am, I just know I'm lonely at times, and can't find what I want, or if did, not sure they'd respond.
1. I know when I go to 'gay sites', out of curiosity, the add pics they post annoy me just as much as hetero add pics for dating sites, in other words unless fit this Hardcore template of 'gay', which I and others don't fit, than where does that leave us?
2. When I see two equally masculine males, with beards, face to face or kissing, that totally turns me off, in that I like 'contrast'...which makes me somewhere between gay and straight. to be 100% gay means one has no need for contrast.
I like contrast, in that I tend to be attracted to males with 'soft' features.
Am turned off by males who do exagerated 'drag' type of stuff.
Certain males, particularly if white, tend to have softer features than some females, mainly say 'B'.
Many younger W males have softer hands, and feet, and cuter faces than some urban B females, and that creates confusion from within...in that I'm drawn to that which is 'soft', regardless of gender.
Which again puts me somewhere between g and s, but not fully either.
3. Could never join gay dating site where would have to plaster clear picture of self on site to be approved, which again tells me I'm not fully comfortable being gay, in that I see that as a final destination 'tag'.
I'm more interested in a relationship with a slender, youthful, soft handed, soft footed male or female, and I don't see that interest as being a final destination 'tag'.
The only way I'd definitely chose the female over the male is if the female wanted to create a family, but if not, than to me what's it really matter?
I don't just adore females cause they're females, I adore them, or use to, cause of the fact they could give me a family, but if not going to, than again, just flesh to me.
A female is simply a funny look male to me, outside of the idea of reproduction.
But even so very few males are 'cute' enough for me to consider liking on another level.
Most males I encounter simply look ugly and rough, and very non 'soxy', as if given up...
Don't like males who are pudgy, balding, and featureless...the look only a wife could tolerate I guess, as long as they bring home the bread.
I like hair, youth, a slender build and vitality, that's what I"m attracted to.
Not turned on by males or females who are pudgy.
Anyways, point is is that I doubt I'll ever find the right one, I don't go out enough.
And I'm not just seeking 's-x', if that's all I wanted, I mean with this opiod epidemic, I suppose could just go out onto the streets and manipulate peoples vulnerabilities, but I don't.
Why?
Cause I'm decent, but the older I get the more I'm seeing that being decent simply means you're always alone.
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Post by X factor on Feb 23, 2019 12:50:58 GMT -5
I think the only type of woman I could ever date anymore would have to be a Lesbian? or a Bi-lesbian...why?
Cause a Lesbian woman vs a Hetero woman, would understand the complex layer of soxual and or personality attraction, thus together we'd be large.
But to just get with a 100% fake believe Hetero woman, or church woman, I could never live up to their demands, in that I've done to many weird things in the past, nothing outside the bounds of the law, but more weird as in artistic expression, clubs I've gone to, and I can't hide that, nor would I want to.
I could never get with a woman where I felt I had to hide part of my past, or part of self.
I'd like to be with a woman where we could be holding hands, sitting on park bench, and joke about who we thought was soxy.
I'd like to feel safe saying 'Wow, that guy looks very cute', and I'd like for her to feel safe saying 'Hmm, I like that chicks whatever'....yet we'd be a couple.
That's the kind of relationship I'd like to be in.
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Post by X factor on Feb 23, 2019 12:58:35 GMT -5
And women who think all a guy wants is sox from them, really annoy me, annoy me a lot, and is all the internet seems to be full of now, these arrogant women who think that just cause they're a female, you'll fall head over heals for them, and is the bases for so many online scams.
Women like that really despise men, and think men are very dumb, and I'm hyper turned off by women like that.
Also, if a woman or male asks for definite descriptions, forget about it, run away.
Example 'Are you B or W?'...
There as so many shades in between black and white, so many personalities and styles, and for a woman or man to ask you that question as a qualifier should right off the bat tell you they're very 'small' and will treat you like 'meat' instead of as a complex human soul.
I think if I were fake, I could meet someone today, could say the right thing, act desperate, oh ye, I could, I mean I see women dating homeless men OK.
But I always ask myself 'what about the day after', then what?
Would I still want that person around, and what would be their motivation for staying.
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Post by X factor on May 20, 2020 21:11:17 GMT -5
Not all males attracted to masculine, thunder thigh female legs  Not all males are attracted to women with thick, thunder butt, or thunder thigh legs. To some males, such a figure is 'masculine'. So just because you're not attracted to women built, or who have builds like Power lifters, that doesn't mean your gay....It just means not all female body types are 'feminine'. (This lab test, conducted by Dr Brezzoro, compared slender male legs with chubby, stocky, body builder female legs. And 60% of males responding, preferred the slender male legs on the right, before they knew the gender of legs.
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Post by X factor on May 20, 2020 21:25:41 GMT -5
Not all males attracted to masculine, thunder thigh female legs Not all males are attracted to women with thick, thunder butt, or thunder thigh legs. To some males, such a figure is 'masculine'. So just because you're not attracted to women built, or who have builds like Power lifters, that doesn't mean your gay....It just means not all female body types are 'feminine'. (This lab test, conducted by Dr Brezzoro, compared slender male legs with chubby, stocky, body builder female legs. And 60% of males responding, preferred the slender male legs on the right, before they knew the gender of legs. That lady on the left, has fatter, more thick, muscular legs than I do, and I'm a male.... No wonder Black men look at my legs and feet when I walk into corner stores in the hood areas.. |
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Post by X factor on May 20, 2020 21:34:07 GMT -5
Not all males attracted to masculine, thunder thigh female legs Not all males are attracted to women with thick, thunder butt, or thunder thigh legs. To some males, such a figure is 'masculine'. So just because you're not attracted to women built, or who have builds like Power lifters, that doesn't mean your gay....It just means not all female body types are 'feminine'. (This lab test, conducted by Dr Brezzoro, compared slender male legs with chubby, stocky, body builder female legs. And 60% of males responding, preferred the slender male legs on the right, before they knew the gender of legs. That lady on the left, has fatter, more thick, muscular legs than I do, and I'm a male.... No wonder Black men look at my legs and feet when I walk into corner stores in the hood areas.. This will confuse you even more, the line between gender can be very thin at times, take the test.. And the answer to the above is here 'Male vs Female feet part 2' |
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Post by X factor on May 24, 2020 23:25:22 GMT -5
All I know is I hate it when fat bearded types, gross over the hill types, who endulged when younger, then turn around when old and married to corpses, then try to tell others what their soxual orientation should be.
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Post by X factor on May 24, 2020 23:27:08 GMT -5
Yes, me to, like older, pale skinned, chappy skinned no glow Pastors from churches, who exploited all when younger, but now that older, post soxual, they dare tell others how to live.
hmm
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Post by X factor on May 24, 2020 23:29:39 GMT -5
Why are Pastors so obscessed with whom others find comfort in in privacy of own dwellings?
Shouldn't Pastors of churches be thinking of their own wives instead of me?
Double standard confused m/f's, Pastors that is....
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