You are not 'gay' if or just because (see list)

You are not gay just because you're not attracted to the outer styles or mannerisms of certain women

I notice like with myself, when I'm around females who actually remind me of females in their mannerism, body types, their sway, and other things, than it just triggers something in me.

But when around women who sure, are biologically female, but other than the biological part in no way shape or form seem pleasant, than why would 'I' be turned on by that?

I'm no more turned onto certain females just because they're female as I am by a female cow or Buffalo.

For one I like women who are petite and athletic, not all guys do, but I do.

I'm not attracted to women with long urban Jerry springer show type nails and all, that just turns me off big time, and I don't see that as having anything to do with being a female.

Warlocks and Vampires have long nails to, and equally turned off by that, so when see a woman with long nails I think of a warlock or witch...again other males may like that, I do not.

But like earlier tonight when around petite women, almost tomboyish women while at a job, I felt like a 'male', cause they fit my definition of a female...it's all based on 'taste' I suppose.

I was around Hispanic women earlier today, while at a job, and they just tend to be more 'normal' to me, and nice, and less bitter than do urban women who always just seem to have some kind of a heavy attitude...not all.

There was a petite blck female I liked also, cause she was petite and had feminine hands, no nails, she was blck, but maybe raised around Hispanics, who knows...she just didn't have the typical 'black attitude'.

I kind of like women who just act like a regular college guy would act.

It's complicated, but studied self earlier and observed when around women or females who remind me of such, I act like a regular guy and start complimenting them as If I'm in high school again or something.

But when around women who have physical and behavioral traits that scare me, all my maleness ust goes 'mute', and like I become a 'it'.

Well I only want a hug from people I think are cute and youthful, not some older male withered type who probably hurt others when they were young.

You are not really 'gay', if a male, and not attracted to large urban woman who act tough, look tough, and drive hot rod cars men use to drive



Now days, at least in urban areas, when you see Dodge Challenger hot rod in rear view mirror, more than likely it's not your classic 'Fonz' or 'Greaser' looking male, rather it's a urban 'Butch' black female who probably has more hormones than many males.

And this idea that as a male, you're suppose to be attracted to this dynamic is silly to me, for to me you'd actually have to be 'gay', to be attracted to a woman who's built like a NFL linebacker, and drives a muscle car, that's what guys use to do, not anymore.

For a generation or more now, with the dimishing role of strong, solid, non street black males, it has given rise to a matriarchal family structure where tough black females rule and dominate the families, and they tolerate 'males', as long as 'boys', is why you always see these urban females cursing out their sons in the store, that's called dominance, and a bit of mental illness and just lack of parenting skills to boot.

But once male mild grows up and starts showing signs of independence than it's..

'Well you can go live your Father', type BS after spending years mentally abusing the mind of the mild, and then people wonder why often black males raised by these type of women grow up with so much anger and other inside the head issues.

But anyways, I guess it's all about 'taste'...maybe some guys do like NFL lineback sized females who look like men in drag, but many a male do not and prefer a woman who is more petite than they are.

This idea that all females are feminine is a farce, there are many males who behave more feminine than women, and that doesn't mean they're gay either...to me feminine just really means' relaxed, relaxed enough to be yourself.

Me, I wasn't raised around women who acted tougher than me, and built larger than me, so not turned on by such types, doesn't mean I'm gay, just means not turned on romanticaly by such a dynamic...co worker fine, regular friend, fine, romance, no.

To me 'fem' is simply having softer qualities than me...if one is a biological female, yet have harder physical qualities than I do, than they're female in gender only, as in a cow or horse.

Cows and horses can be female, but I'm not attracted to them simply cause they're female...it's other 'added' traits that will determine whether or not I'm attracted to you.

I think desiring intimacy and being 'gay' are two different things.

I think, observe, at least online, that most gay people just want to have sox, whether they know you are not, and I find that gross, and I'm not sure if gay is the right word to describe that behavior.

Cause I suppose there's a lot of hetero males who are the same way with women, they may be orientated differently but their behavior is the same.

Nothing turns me off more than if on social media, and post a pic of self looking or appearing 'cute', and a lot of time it's satire, then having some stranger 'DM' you asking for whatever.

It's insulting actually that they would think I was actually that empty on the inside and without values that I'd want to whatever with them.

I don't roll like that.

They don't even ask 'How are you', I mean no small talk, just 'Hey, blasay and whatever?'

I'm not that hollow on the inside, to be seen by another as only a object, not my thing.

Not only that, but they're responding to a posted altered picture and not actually to 'me'.

Since I've been using the internet I've never posted an actually clear pic of self, and glad I never did, cause something told me later on that the internet would become corrupt and boy was I right.

There's many grooming and exterior styles about many women that I just don't like, but I don't think that makes me 'gay'.

For instance, I don't like women with long nails, thin spidery hands with long dagger like nails, hell no, that's just not my thing.

But I do like women with soft hands with short nails, like most males tend to have.

Nor am I attracted to women who weigh more than me, don't have any 'fem' traits, other than what's between their legs.

It's not that I don't like them as fellow humans, but don't expect me to be aroused by them.

I'd have to be like on a double dose of viagra to be turned on by something like that, which I see a lot of where I stay, gigantic sized urban females who just seem to love to eat all the time.

I mean just like there's a ton of reasons a woman might not be attracted to certain males, the same applies to men, there's a ton of reason why some women don't arouse some men, it's do to personal preference and taste.

How those personal preferences and traits are formed, who knows, but they are.

With me, be it a person of color, I happen to grow up in a 'W' community, and so from age 4, up and until 18, that's all I was around.

From my earliest years, when would go play with my classmates, their sisters use to have the most softest 'w' feet, that practically glowed to me, I've had that sensation since a hobbit, oh and same with the hands.

Where I came from, a rural area, the W women there, at least at the time, didn't have all that urban long claws stuff, they had softer tomboyish type of hands.

And so that standard of beauty has just stayed with me into adulthood, and I can't change that.

I just like soft hands and feet with short nails, regardless of color, but where I stay now it seems only W women, and Asian women, fit the bill, where as the B urbanized females where I stay just don't seem to understand what toenail clippers are.

And or during 400 years of slavery, were bred to have large feet and manly looking toes..I don't know.