Cross Identity therapy section

You poor thing you, ain't nobody gonna come rescue you, you're not exactly Cinderella.

Did someone hit you over the head with a rock when you were younger??

You poor poor thing you...

The mechanics of how some people move or flow, just kind of amazes me, I mean some people have
'grace' or move with grace, and are just fun to watch, fun or silly, either or.

I'm learning there's like over 40 Gender identifications one can have towards self, as well as soxual orientation which I guess is different than gender orientated

I went over the list and got dizzy, but here's a few I think I could fall under, just for fun.



Pansoxual- When you are attracted to all genders and/or do not concern gender when you are attracted towards someone

I can be attracted to all genders, but with me the attraction has nothing to do with 'gender' and more to do with other qualities, if someone is attractive to me, I'm not caring or noting their gender first, either they're attractive to me or they're not, nor does it mean just because I find someone else attractive that I want to have cheeseburgers with them.

Or maybe I fit under this term here below...

Demisoxual- When you only experience soxual attraction after forming a strong emotional bond first or a romantic bond

Maybe that explains why I haven't dated anyone in years, and why I get so turned off by 'adult adds' cause with me, after initial attraction, there has to be relationship building, regardless of whom it is, maybe when younger and in high school that didn't matter so much (but I even think back then it did)

Or maybe I fall under this catigory below...

Agender- Not identifying with any gender. Sometimes referred to as being genderless or gendervoid

I think this is what I am when online and express self through art and thought only, but in the real physical world, when interacting with others, of course then I identify with a gender cause I have to, I don't live in a community that would really allow or accept any other way.

But when online, gender has about zero meaning to me, like being a 'spirit', I mean when you think about it, gender as in being male or female, really only matters if trying to pro create and start a family, but if spend majority of life alone, not pro creating, than gender kind of becomes a mute point, at least when alone and by ones self.

Polygender- When you identify with multiple genders at once. Sometimes referred to as multigender.

Neutrois- When you identify as agender, neither male nor female, and/or genderless

Gender Apathetic- When you really do not identify nor care about any particular gender. You are fine passing off as whatever and you really do not have an opinion towards your own gender.

And I'll stop there cause the list is very long and one could spend hours trying to decide what they are to themselves and or trying to project to others.

And finally, I don't think society is as open to stuff like that as media makes it seem.

I think when in college, or a university, fine, cause you can explore those sides of self in a very safe environment, but in the 'real world', most people, places, don't want to hear all that 'noise'.

And with hoards of immigrants flooding towards the boarders, they for sure come from traditional families and traditional ways of thinking about 'gender' and gender roles.

I think when nations of the west, suddenly flooded with million of immigrants from middle east or South America, I think, observe, it just sets the conversation way back, and they arrive with like a 1940's mentality, and understand nothing about LGBTQ rights, or 'black rights', or anyone else's rights, accept their own.

Many immigrants come from nations where life was very hard, and when come from such places, you're more concerned with basic survival stuff, not what color dress to wear to the mall.
Or what gender role you feel like being on Friday.

Much more to follow.

Exhibit 'A'



I like people, not genders but people like this

This soul, this being, the way they move, so graceful, and so kindly, that's what I like, people who exhibit a playful cat like behavior, regardless of birth gender.

And also body type has to do with it, I prefer lanky types, male or female, I just like lanky string bean types that are tall, or proportioned tall, limber and flexible.

Is it a sin to be fat or built like a tank?...no, but that's not what attracts me, not physically anyways...someone with a body like a tank could have a scientific mind, and their mind I would be attracted to, but not their body (but even that depends (so many variables)

I also like people who are playful well into adulthood, and I like touchy feely types, in other words 'flirts'.

So far none of the traits I mention of gender specific rather person specific.

If a male, slender, lanky, youthful looking and or in how you move, I'll probablly be attracted to you, and likewise if a female, now what I do with that attraction is a whole different avenue.

Cause there's a lot of people I'm visually attracted to who don't even know I'm alive. and we all also know just because you're attracted to someone doesn't mean they're attracted to you, for they have their own set of 'attraction check off list'..

Usually when people pair, it's usually when enough shared attraction on that list are similar.

And then you add 'race', color, ethnicity, personal bone structure and it gets even more complicated, then add feet, hands, eyes, hair, and even more things have to be in alignment.

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Take 'feet' for example......



I like feet, for some odd reason, but very particular of the kind of feet I like or am attracted to.

Feet attraction is a bi-soxual thing to me, in other words if a male had feet like the above, I'd probably want to marry them.

Like illustration above, don't matter the gender of the feet, what matters to me is 'the feet', how they look to thy eyes...and if soft, they're soft.

Feet, and other parts of the body are basically genderless and sculpted the way 'owner of feet' see fit.

Not all females have soft taken care of feet and not all males have ugly Fred Flintstone feet.

It totally depends on the individual, and of course DNA or random genetics plays a role also.

Some are just born naturally 'soft', whether male or female, others have to 'work at being soft'...if that's their desired state of being and presentation.

So ye, if I were at like a club, or bar, or in the park, and some guy took off his Nike shows and had feet like the above and started wiggling their toes...I'd be like 'Hey, will you marry me?...(humor folks)

And of course if a woman I'd want the same or any of the 40 plus gender identities inbetween.

Cute toes and feet are cute toes and feet to me, my inner volcano doesn't know the difference.

Not all females are 'fem', and not all males are 'Masc', that I do know.

Life is short, and am attracted to what am attracted to...blame God who created me I guess.

First off, you goofy as hell...OK..sorry you dropped out of college and now stuck here within the Zone Asylum.

And look, feet are feet to me, brown, white, red, grey, blue, as long as they're soft, and yes, you do have soft feet.

But you're missing the point...stop being so goofy and 'vain', and jealous...dog gon!

You silly as hell man.......