When one drinks a lot, one begins feeling that going to non alcoholic events would be boring.
So in order to break that perception I think it's a good idea for heavy or social drinker to try scheduling a non alcoholic event where you go somewhere where other people are and no alcohol is being served.
Where the focus isn't on 'hooking up' but rather on the event at hand.
One might find that stimulating as well.
Being around like minded people, of same interest, can be stimulating and get one naturally high, without drugs or alcohol.
When you first stop drinking, regardless of duration, duration could be simply not drinking when you normally would, be it on the weekend, Friday night, during the weekday, or for multiple days, weeks, at a time.
When you first stop drinking, and using alcohol as emotional safety blanket it can be scary at first, the world can seem very big, and you very small.
Outside can seem like a scary place.
It can seem like there's people or forces out there ready to pounce.
Alcohol works as a protective emotional shield for some, and without it it's like having no shield against hurt and pain and other people taking jabs at you.
People who don't rely on alcohol for a shield always have their shield up, but when one drinks a lot, alcohol replaces natural emotional and witty shield with chemical addiction shield, so that when not drinking natural shield isn't there anymore. (but always comes back in a short time as one learns to cope again with reality, ugly as it may be or appear).
Alcohol can make even the scariest place, or situation seem fun and or amusing.
But when suddenly facing same situation sober, even small things can make one jump, small circumstances.
It's all simply a matter of learning how to take control again and to be smart again.
But when one first stops drinking it's not easy, especially if alone and have no one else to fall back on emotionally.
No one who really cares whether you drink or not, no one to really be accountable to.
So you must do it for self, cause no one else really cares, unless it conflicts with a job one is on.
And some people even prefer you to be drunk, like you more when drunk, think you're more fun to be around when drunk, yet usually these are the people you really don't want nothing to do with when sober.
If you only like someone or willing to tolerate them when drinking, not a good sign.
Love and respect should be what makes us get along with another no inebriation.
Still though, there are many other reasons why people drink, or go back to drinking, many which have been discussed in earlier post.
But as first post on here, it was said there usually never is a 'happily ever after' story when it comes to drinking and broken lives, just chapters within the story.
Trump doesn't drink, I found that out today, can't confirm that cause I heard it on the radio, but at age 69 with all that energy that's probably true.
Cause drinking wears you down actually, dulls the mind, not sharpen it.
If he were a heavy drinker, or even a light one, I doubt he'd have that kind of bravado, cause when you drink, it makes you insecure, not more secure, over the long run, and you turn to the bottle for bravado and security.
And when you got hooked on alcohol it dominates your 'off time', makes you only want to drink, to relax and escape and not think about business.
Donald Trump wouldn't be where he is now if he drank.
People who are that rich, and then get hooked on alcohol or drugs, usually end up loosing their wealth and empire.
If you don't like the man for no other reason, like him for not drinking.
That could even be inspiration to others to over come their own bad habits.
Last Edit: Jul 23, 2015 19:33:15 GMT -5 by X factor
Alcohol will totally shrink your world and lie to you
Alcohol is like a jelous lover that tries to make you think all you need is itself in order to be happy.
Alcohol will totally shrink your world and rob you of hundreds of moments you would of, could of, had if not drunk, if not in drunken stupor at home, or out and about.
Alcohol robs you of confidence base on your true talents.
Alcohol will lie to you and tell you you have no talent or confidence, unless with it.
Alcohol will make you tired, and fizz out early, where as someone who's sober, has been sober, has a way more balanced energy cycle and can sustain natural enthusiasm long after drinker has fallen asleep or lost interest and or fallen back into depressive state.
Life after alcohol can seem very stale at first, very 'dry' (no pun intended).
But to me, Donald Trump is a testament to the fact that one can have a thriving personality independent of alcohol.
No one comes out the wound drinking or a drunk, and for many years before drinking, most develop very riveting personalities with a lot of range.
Natural highs and lows, looking back I myself can remember such ranges of emotions, small town, being in love, having a crush on someone, or even before that, the anticipation of going on first early morning fishing trip with Father, or the anticipation of Xmas!
Or the nervousness of the first day of school.
All that was natural high and low ranger of emotions, no alcohol or drugs needed to enhance anything, or dullen any emotion.
Then sometime between the ages of 15-25, ect, alcohol, drugs, tobacco is tried, and after that some are hooked, and slowly but surely need outside chemical stimuli in order to invigorate the experience.
And of course the longer one does any of the above, the less effect it has on mood, so one has to do more and more to obtain same effect when done first time, but you can never catch that effect ever again, you'd have to stop smoking or drinking for a whole year, or 3-6 months get same effect.
And then some effects are irreversible, effects that include bad health, and or bad social decisions made while under the influence that can't be reversed.
Now not only have natural emotions been deadend, but chemical stimuli seem to have little effect as well, now all one is doing is destroying body.
And as body goes, so does moral and everything else.
It's a deadly trap, and is why people like Trump amaze me in that they've never been hooked on anything, and if they were would not be where they're at, cause substance abuse robs you of energy, robs you of wanting to do other things, getting high or drinking becomes your main objective, everything else is second.
One doesn't get to command nearly 10 billion dollars worth of wealth and assets if one is side tracked by drugs.
And those who are side tracked by drugs, with that type of wealth, fall sudden, we've seen it in Hollywood, we've seen rappers, singers, performers come crashing down once they get hooked on either drugs or alcohol.
Sometimes when you stop drinking, you instantly realize why you begin drinking in the first place
For many, alcohol runs interference, like a linebacker on a football team.
Number 56, the fierce linebacker or blocker in above illustration, is an example of what alcohol can do for those addicted to it, it becomes ones blocker or bodyguard, keeps all bad people at bay, protects you from having to deal with frail emotions, fears, doubts and more.
And as long as drunk, and have number 56 running interference for you, there's no problem, the only thing is number 56 isn't a janitor and not around to clean up the mess left behind.
Alcohol, the seductive trap.
Last Edit: Feb 2, 2016 21:10:25 GMT -5 by X factor
When you stop drinking to pass the time, it's weird trying to figure out what to do with the time you normally would be to drunk, or buzzed or drinking to care about.
Just the process of drinking is a time killer to those who drink.
But when you stop, say after work, now suddenly you're like 'Wow, here's all this time, what shall I do with it?'
And it forces you to deal with emotions you normally would not, like that natural down time needed after work, to re cooperate, but if drinking all the time, you never give your body time to rest, heal and recover, thus long term medical issues can occur, sneak up on a person.
When not drunk, buzzed or drinking you start feeling the whole gauntlet of emotions again
And that can be scary or saddening at first.
In other words you become 'mortal' again, not so big in own mind.
When you drink, it gives you a cape, a superhero's cape (in own mind), but in reality it's just destroying your moral.
Giving up alcohol after years of using it as a cape, is a long drawn out phycological battle.
The struggle isn't one short chapter or sound bite.