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Post by X factor on Aug 12, 2013 12:30:59 GMT -5
Roommates...
There's a time when that sounds appealing, then there's a time when it sounds like a pain.
No roommate is ever what they say they are in add, that they are in real life.
I think before you get a roommate you should meet with them first, over lunch...maybe even several times, after all you will be sharing roof together.
When you are someones roommate or someone becomes your roommate, there's a lot of trust involved.
In college, or college towns, having a roommate or being some ones roommate is almost second nature and expected.
But in none collegiate enviornments or communities, the whole roommate thing can or tends, to take on different dynamics.
With many facing hard economic times, I think this topic is worth exploring...the pros and cons of living with a roommate...
Is it better to live alone and struggle economically, or is it better to have half the rent paid by roommate, yet put up with misery?
Lot's more to follow...and many angles to explore.
People want roommates for different reasons...
We'll also explore how different adds are worded, and why they're worded that way.
Good adds, bad adds, and red flag adds...stay tuned...
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Post by X factor on Aug 12, 2013 12:39:13 GMT -5
For one I never like or feel comfortable with roommate adds where guy prefers his roommate be a female. I find that shady. If the sole purpose is to save on money, (business), than why would a guy care if his roommate is male or female? Why should lust be involved? It's as if the guys saying 'I want you to be female, cause I plan on looking at you at times'I would stay away from such adds that specify gender...at least when coming from a male. I can understand females wanting another female roommate...but when males say 'Room available, female roommate preffered'I'd be weary of such adds...  |
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Post by X factor on Aug 12, 2013 12:53:20 GMT -5
Also...when someone uses the term 'roomie'...that kind of means they want to get 'cozy' with you... 'Roomie' = 'Lets get cozy'...Not saying there's anything wrong with that, as add above demonstrates... Just saying usually when someone uses the word 'roomie'...it's as if they're seeking a 'cuddle bunny' or something... |
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Post by X factor on Aug 12, 2013 13:03:24 GMT -5
Who in the heck would want to stay in a place like this for a full year? No kitchen, no smoking, no pets!I can only imagine what the landlord looks like...  I guess they figure you'll be eating fast food hamburgers the whole time there and won't need to cook nutritional food...good grief... |
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Post by X factor on Aug 12, 2013 14:25:47 GMT -5
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Post by X factor on Aug 17, 2013 9:22:26 GMT -5
'Looking for fun cute female roomate'This person is looking for a fun, cute, fluffy, duffy, roommate... Did I not caution against this up above in previous post? Sounds like they're looking for a female pet, and Barbie Doll or sorts... Someone they can watch and adore... Better check bathroom and bedroom for hidden cameras, peep holes and all.... This person definitely wants more than just a roommate...'~'
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Post by X factor on Aug 17, 2013 9:41:42 GMT -5
Mature gay men to rent room, strict rulesSeems like a nice, clean room to stay in... Their rules seem more strict than living in a Catholic Boarding house...but that can be good. After all, it's a room you want, a safe place to bed down at night. And the fact these two want to run you're credit and background, shows they are 'business' when it comes to living arrangements... To bad there's no 'test' run...when moving in with others... It's like you sign agreement, then just move in...what if 3 hours later you're fighting? That's why it's wise to first get to know people before you just move in...go out to dinner, or some other event... Get to know who you're about to move in with, it could save you both issues down the road...
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Post by X factor on Aug 31, 2013 17:00:13 GMT -5
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Post by X factor on Aug 31, 2013 17:05:23 GMT -5
Vegitarian roomate wanted...You can live here with this person, as long as you don't eat meat...  This person here is willing to share their space with you, as long as you do not eat meat...must be a vegetarian...and eat like beans and lettuce...
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Post by X factor on Aug 31, 2013 17:08:19 GMT -5
what do we really want in a roommate?
If you're a male, what do you want in another male roommate?
And if female, what do you want in another female roommate?
Compatibility of course...but what does that mean?
Do you want your roommate to be single?
Does their orientation matter? political leaning?
Will it be just business?, or do you want your roommate to fulfill a social role?
Sometimes you just never know until they move in, or you move in with them...
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Post by X factor on Sept 12, 2013 19:53:24 GMT -5
Just moving in general, can be a very unnerving experience, expecially the older you get and the more you realize folks don't like you based on A, B, or C. As you age, you become much more self aware, reality based, and begin to realize the realities of human nature, and the limitations of... Ethnicity, heritage, color and perception also play a big part in moving. Males, who are defined as 'black' do to so much social stigmitation, probibly have the hardest time finding a suitable place to live..(out side of small college towns). Mostly when people run 'roommate adds' or 'house available for rent'...in their minds they're thinking more along these lines...  And the positive perceptions that follow... 1. Employed 2. Clean 3. Mannerable 4. Safe 5. College educated 6. Pop culture, mainstream 7. Responsible 8. Proper 9. Rich parents 10. Happy go lucky Yes, people can be stereotyped in a positive ways also. Everyone who leases an apartment or house, or that is looking for a roommate, first and foremost hopes that those who respond kind of fit the above generic description... On the flip side of that...what people dread the most when they run roommate or rental adds, is that the following will respond...  Not saying all males of color are 'hood', but sadly it's the hood, that all males of color are compared to and measured against. So because of 'hood' images embedded in every ones minds...black males probably have the most difficult time convincing land lords, or none hood roommates to give them a chance and let them move in... Unless there's some 'gayness' involved or something, it's rare for a none 'black' person to openly accept a 'black male' amongst their mist...to live. There are other variables to of course, like college buddies ect... But I'm talking strangers who just call up responding to an add. I mean unless the black guy shows up wearing a tie and suit, and displaying Harvard graduate degree, it can be difficult to over come the negative dislike and stereotypes many have of younger black males. Even other blacks who run 'for rent' adds, secretly hope a Justin Bieber type responds to add...  You know, some clean cut guy or gal, someone who you feel you've grown up watching on TV...someone who doesn't impulsively scare you or make you 'wonder'... A wholesome pop culture safe type...(of course this is all based on perception). If you show up looking like Justin Beiber, people are like 'Hell ya you can move in, I'll even cut your first months rent in half'... But if you show up as a male of color, particularly a AA male...this is the only image they will see  You could be dressed nicely, speak decent, don't matter...this is the image they will conjure up in their mind of you. And then will say 'Umm, room has already been rented'... To be continued... ... |
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Post by X factor on Sept 24, 2013 20:04:37 GMT -5
Wow...I guess I have it better than I thought...or have come a long way. As I scour roommate adds I see so many who are desperate for place to stay. It kind of makes you sad to read them. single, mixed, needs a room, looking to get back on feet.I mean it saddens me that someone has to let others know they're Asian, black and white (mixed). To be in that phase where you're not established enough to sign lease, don't earn enough to buy home...but just kind of stuck in that in between time of youth and getting it together. But now days, unless you have it together, and high enough income, and stability with job, proof of employment, there's really not many places you can live, other than someone allowing you to live with them in roommate situation. Like a home owner or something... Veteran needs home, room.Here's a Veteran who needs a home, room, that the system doesn't see fit to give them, so instead must sub lease or do the roommate thing...or it could be by choice. They are a student, but no age is given. Guy served his country, and is having to hunt for housing...wow. And finally... Waitress needs room?From reading the Add...they sound like a Waitress cause of where they work. And you can almost tell what someone earns by what they say the can afford to pay for rent. From reading these adds you can really see how many are struggling out there...not lazy, but struggling. People who just need a break. People who can't get an apartment or house, and so are forced to seek out strange roommates or others willing to host them for a fee. So if you do have a place, a lease, a mortgage, consider yourself lucky, and count your blessings tonight... |
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Post by X factor on Oct 13, 2013 13:31:14 GMT -5
To me, having a roommate is almost like being married...same sox, different sox, doesn't matter... Having a roommate is like a partnership...and a lot of trust is involved...you're sleeping under the same roof as someone else... It's an 100% trust type of situation. And you can save 50% on rent...that gives you 50% more money to spend or save. But is it really worth it? I struggle with this at times... A bad roommate will make your life hell...a good roommate will have you wondering why you didn't do it sooner. Who makes the best roommates? College students? Retired types? blue collar working types? You just never know until you get one. A good roommate will.. 1. Be employed... 2. Have a vehicle... 3. Have good relations with their family. Just be glad you're not this poor fella...who needs old van or camper to rent... Please rent me your van, so I can live in it... People are really struggling out there... Some of us who 'have'...or at least 'have a place to stay'...often forget how others are struggling... I was homeless once...and know how it is... How vunverable you are when looking for a place... |
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Post by X factor on Oct 27, 2013 19:07:13 GMT -5
Roommates...are they really worth it? Is a roommate, you might not get along with, worth saving 300-400 dollars a month for? It's so hard to say. A roommate is basically like a marriage...yes marriage... Whether living with same sox or opposite sox...a roommate situation is very similar to a marriage... Trust is involved...a lot of trust. And not matter what...you check your roommate out for 'attraction'... That's just the honest truth... No one wants an unattractive roommate. We are attracted to things that look good, things that are in shape... Things that are sporty...whether a car or a roommate...  If we're living under the same roof as a non relative...we just usually like for that person to be soxy and kept...regardless of gender... No one wants to share a place with a slob... Roommates can be a blessing or a curse...you just never know until they move in or you move in. And all this 'I keep to myself stuff'...goes away as soon as they move in...it's just human nature, as social creatures, to want to talk with, chat with, anyone in near proximity with yourself... Again...finding a roommate is almost like finding a spouse... Cause you must be able to get along...must be able to trust one another, obey rules ect. It's not an easy choice...a good roommate can make your life so much better, become a friend, a companion, fill those lonely moments up with talk and chatter... Yet a bad roommate can make your existence a living hell...bring unknown friends to place, eat your food, play music loud, talk on phone loud, all night... There's no easy answer here... |
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Post by X factor on Oct 31, 2013 4:40:47 GMT -5
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