Yes, I think a Nun would just about be the only roommate I'd be comfortable with right now.
A 30 something year old Nun.
But how often do Nuns need a place to stay? The church takes care of them.
I'm not Catholic, but Catholics seem to take their faith more seriously than Protestants.
At least as portrayed in the media and radio.
I could very well be wrong.
How about a Priest...would I mind sharing place with a Priest?
If it were a Priest, they'd have to be young. Young Priest, which you rarely see anymore, inspire me with the dedication.
When you see someone who is young, and still 'sexy', yet so dedicated to a discipline, that's inspiring, in that you know they're placing their faith in holiness about fleshly temptations...supposedly.
But when I see Priests who are old, bald or balding, and withering away, well, there's nothing inspiring about that...
They have no choice at that point but to be a Priest, to old and withered to do anything else.
But a younger Priest always has a choice...and it's that choice that makes their faith stand out.
But when's the last time you saw a young, Elvis Presley, looking Priest? Hardly never.
You just don't see young sexy males who are Priests, at least not where I stay.
Most males who become Priests seem to be the type who couldn't of gotten married anyways.
Anyways, I'm getting off track here.
My number 1 choice for a roommate would be a 30 yr old something, female Nun.
That much I still know...not sure what second choice would be.
When someone moves in, if there for more than 2 days, they think they own place and you... They like adopt you as their caretaker...now you're responsible for their emotions, fate, food, heat, clothing and more.
When you're struggling yourself, why would you want to take on someone else who'll be more of a burden than help?
Ok, I tried running an add...got freaked out by responses, and so have already deleted add...
I'm to paranoid I guess...I know that's not fair...heck, I was 'out there' once to, in need...
But when I start getting responses from out of state, this person, that person...this chick, this guy...I just get up tight...think of some weird Bruce W movie where international kidnappers scheme.
I really just don't need to move a total stranger into my place, would rather struggle and live alone.
If I know someone first fine, like if you work with them, or if they're recommended by a friend or something, fine...but to just let a total stranger off the street, or out of state, into your place...I'm just not that bold right now...
Roommate or no roommate...that is the question many ask, including myself...
A few reasons some may want roommates...
1. To save money on rent, mortgage.
Those are the main reasons...
Like with 3's Company...
A roommate or roommates have to become your friends...that's just the nature of living close up with people...
I mean lets face, if you're living with 1 or 2 others, it's imperative that everyone gets along.
And forms a bond.
No one wants to room with someone they don't get along with.
Great things can come from having a roommate...they can grow on you, and you one them..like an unofficial marriage.
But if you get the wrong one, it can be hellish.
If you get someone whom is not trust worthy, after giving them the keys to your place, you'll always be uptight while gone...someone with shady friends, associates, in and out all day, night, stealing stuff.
That's why you have to get copy of drivers license, at a minimum.
And some places, like apartments, only allow roommates if they register with front office...and to me that's smart, cause it protects you.
And if they're not willing to register at front office, than more than likely they're trouble.
Then you have to decide, gay, straight, same gender, opposite gender, pets? ect.
Like I said above...my perfect roommate would be a Catholic Nun....
Behind that a Catholic Priest...but one with hair.
(assuming you could choose by profession).
A retired Senior Citizen would also be ideal to me, to have as a roommate...someone mellow, yet wise...who only wants a secure quiet place to bed, and to read, and relax.
I've heard attractive singly women from the ages of 18-30 are the worst...cause they attract men...and not all the male company they attract may be decent or honest.
Got to remember, most people have friends, and if they have room in your place, they're going to want to invite those friends over...
And if they're paying rent, they're going to want to have that right and privilege.
You won't find rich Lawyers or Doctors or cops or engineers looking for roommates...
Instead you're going to find students, part time workers, warehouse workers, people from the labor class generally. Mostly people who earn less than $40,000 a year.
Or older folks on fixed incomes.
And you always got to ask them why do they want a roommate? and are they not able to qualify for a house/apartment of their own...that's an important question.
It would be nice if all roommate situations could be like 3's Company...but their not...but if you're careful in your selection, ya just never know...
When it comes to deciding whether or not to get a roommate, it can be very confusing, and often come down to fiscal desperation...
'Should I, should I not, should I, should I not'.
Unfortunatly, roommates are not like pets...
Roommates are not like pets, in that pets are very simple minded, and other than food, and a bit of affection, aren't really a burden on you.
Roommates, humans, are totally the opposite. Do not get a roommate if you think roommate is going to act or behave like a human pet.
People, humans, unlike a pet, have free will, needs, wants, and humans also have intent...and are capable of doing evil.
But all that aside, when one is in fiscal need or hot water, saving anywhere from 200-400 a month can make one open house or apt up to stranger, or friend, willing to pay.
When it comes to roommates, it's best to have a friend or co-worker...total strangers bring all sorts of risks.
And most people looking to be some ones roommate, and can't get apt or house on their own, have reasons for that.
1. Unstable history 2. Criminal past 3. Mentally ill, unbalanced 4. Unemployable
And I could go on and on.
And when people like this move in, they're hard to get rid of.
They can become leaches, after all now they have room, heat and a/c, food, water, a bathroom.
It's not that they're 'evil' per say, but when you have nothing, headed towards nothing, the basics seem like a grand prize you don't want to give up.
And often times strangers have friends they don't tell you about, lovers, and other issues.
Drugs, addictions, odd habits ect...and on top of all of that still can't pay rent on time or even at all.
It's why when you select a roommate you must verify employment...that's key.
And it doesn't hurt to speak to a few references as well, like family members.
I've been on both sides of the fence
I know what it's like to just be 'out there'...after all I use to be HOMELESS, so I know about how it feels to have people look down on you. But now I've worked way back into system...which is a sham. (but that's for another thread).
So I know both sides of experience. I know what it's like to be desperate, and to so badly just want some one, any one, to see potential in you, and trust that you're a good person.
I know that feeling, that want, that desire.
But with me, I was truly honest and good...a bit nieve, but none the less a good hearted soul.
Where as others, do to their associations or addictions, aren't the same.
Addiction is a curse..never rent to anyone who has a drug history...or is currently using...never.
It will turn into a nightmare for you.
People who are addicted cannot be trusted, will steal, lie, and even hurt you to get a 'fix'...and if they won't, their associates will.
But as more and more people become poor, struggle fiscally, the idea of getting a roommate runs across more and more peoples minds.
A good roommate can be a blessing, and make your life 10 times easier, but a bad roommate can be a curse, and turn your life upside down.
Another thing that scares people about roommates is that you really never know their true intentions.
People will lie and say anything when desperate. But once they move in, then their true horns often come out...
Unless you've know someone for years, you never know what they're about until they move in, and even then you really do not.
It's why at minimum criminal history should be checked, and employment status.
College towns or area are kind of different.
I have decent place, decent view, quiet and clean, yet whenever I myself run roommate adds.
1. No one reads whole add, instead people reply who don't fit what you're looking for. They right off the bat want you to make exceptions for them. Well if they already want you to make an exception for them and don't know them, can you imagine how they'd be once moved in? Rent would be late, suddenly they'd become unemployed, start eating your food, leave door open when leaving ect.
If they can't pay attention to details of add, they're not going to pay attention to anything else.
Also, people who call you or refer to roommate as 'Roomie'....
I'm weary of that to, that tells me they want to get a bit to cozy.
Be it they're gay, lesbian or heterosexual just looking for relationship, I avoid responding to adds where people use the term 'roomie'.
First and foremost it's a business dynamic, most people want roommate to ease financial burden on self first and foremost. Relationships, if you two happen to get along, come second.
Then you have the thing of people leaving TV volume to high, music to high, or always gabbing on the phone.
When you're use to living alone, in peace and quiet, the slightest disruption can cause stress, then you instantly regret having roommate.
Also lay out of place matters, size, how many stories, whether it's a house, or apartment, all that matters.
It's tough, a tough decision on whether to get a roommate or not for all those looking.