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Post by X factor on Jan 14, 2019 20:48:03 GMT -5
People are desperate out there, and here I am with nice decent place to live, yet to afraid to actually invite someone into my realm or life.
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Post by X factor on Jun 8, 2019 15:47:52 GMT -5
If I had a separate sound studio away from where I stay, I'd love to have a roommate, but as it is I do not, so I use whole of place as studio, creative vocal studio, and having a roommate would totally ruin that.
Unless they too were into radio, they would not get what one has to do to create shows in advance, all replaying of tracks, testing 'characters' ect, they'd think I was nutty.
It would be like having someone do Bugs Bunny voice overs in the room next to you, you'd think they were nuts hearing them talk that way solo, but once inserted into final production you'd see animated cartoon character and it would all make sense.
Well I don't do TV, but I do broadcast, and it's kind of the same way in that constantly rehearsing skits, replaying skits, editing ect, and I don't use head set.
So unless they like worked night shift, it wouldn't work, and even then unless they were always gone on the weekend, would not work.
Because of that I think I'm just stuck living solo for the foreseable future.
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Post by X factor on Jun 6, 2020 14:25:43 GMT -5
Came close to almost thinking I wanted a roommate again.
Seems the only time I want a roommate is when I'm drunk.
And even then it's not so much I want a roommate but rather a friend.
But what about when sober, and just tired, and come home from hard days work and don't want to be bothered, then what?
I mean I know we always adopt to new situations, but with me I don't really need a roommate, I earn enough where I can get buy without one....and the peace that comes with that is enormous.
I mean at most I could save $400.00 a month with a roommate, but 400 dollars isn't nothing if can't have peace of mind, or if living with someone you can't stand.
Cause when you can't stand someone, even hearing them walk around, will drive you mad, as you sit in room thinking 'I wish they'd go to work already'....and then your place becomes 'territorial'.
If I just had regular friends, visitors, people who visited now and then, the desire for a roommate wouldn't be there, cause just having a friend come over now and then and visit, then leave, would satisfy the need for a roommate.
I mean for me, I'm realizing, unless I'm in Love with someone, or physically attracted to them, just having a bland, same sox, roommate would begin to annoy me after a while.
There would have to be something 'erotic' about my roommate to make me want to keep them around....and 'erotic', not just in soxual sense, but intellectual sense, like they'd have to be hyper smart, or playful, or have witty sense of humor, or a artist, just something special about them to lift either my visual or spiritual or mental spirits.
But to just have some construction worker type of 9-5 roommate who just went to their room, watched TV, and ate food all the time, I don't know.
I guess I'm just not that desperate yet where I need a roommate, and that's good.
I'm realizing what I need is a friend, not some generic roommate.
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Post by X factor on Jun 6, 2020 14:37:32 GMT -5
With me, even if I had a male roommate, they'd have to be 'soxy' to me, either in a feminine type way or masculine type way, there's have to be something about them that physically stood out, but if they were just some average type, with no flair, I'd become annoyed with them.
I mean think about it, with a roommate, you're both going to be home together for large swaths of time, during storms, during holidays, ext, and eventually your going to have to get to know one another, and talk...that's just human nature, I mean even if have a pet, notice your pet dog or cat likes to occupy the same room or 'space' your in?
That's what social animals do, social animals like company, period.
So if had a roommate, regardless of gender or orientation, eventually you're both going to get more and more curious about one another, and then add alcohol to the mix, or some put in adds '420 friendly', which would disqualify them from living with me cause I can't have that stuff near me and don't want to be associated with it right now.
Many jobs randomly drug test, and the last thing I'd need, while say drunk, is to get high, and then be given random drug test.
Also, would never want anything illegal inside of place, I mean I'm still 'here', cause I've always walked a straight line, and wouldn't want roommates habits gumming that up.
But that aside, as mentioned above, if living together with anyone, sooner or later will get curious about each other, will observe each other, study each other, even fantasize about each other.
You don't think Janet, Chrisy and Jack thought about each other? on 3's Company.
Even co-workers fantasize about each other.....so why wouldn't you fantasize about your roommate if they were attractive to you?
And why would you want a unattractive person sharing your space?
I mean it's not like they're paying all of your rent, they'd only be paying a part of it, why would you want to divide your apartment or house up with person you weren't attracted to?, they'd become an annoyance to you after a while.
Even a soxy female roommate, if you didn't get along with them, would drive you insane after a while, just like how Husband and wives fight.
Anyways, just glad I don't need a roommate right now.
I'm safer without one.
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Post by X factor on Jun 18, 2020 16:43:00 GMT -5
Had person call me back about wanting to be a roommate, I'd forgotten all about that.
I"m not interested though, I like my privacy, like being able to roam place freely...and I just don't need the money that bad right now.
At most would save around 400 a month, and once someone moves in, it's near impossible to get rid of them.
And just don't know if I want to share place with someone I'm not physically attracted to.
There's no point of it for me, other than I'd be accomidatting another's needs, but not really mine.
Ye, that may sound selfish, but I've come this far by myself, and things have been pretty calm.
It's when you add another element, that's when things can go nutty.
There's no benefit to me allowing a stranger to move into place, a stranger I may not like after a week.
At first they were stuck up and didn't call back, now suddenly they do, that tells me either no one wants them, or they finally realized I was the most sane one who first reached out.
I really just don't need a roommate right now, I see no plus to it in current situation.
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Post by X factor on Jun 18, 2020 17:14:14 GMT -5
Ye, I only seem to want a roommate or even considering wanting one if I've had a few drinks.
What that tells me is that that's spurned out of loneliness and not nessesity.
I mean even family members, after a few days, can wear thin, how much more someone you don't really know.
And depends on lay out of place as well, if a place is laid out so that you don't ever have to see or hear your roommate, that's one thing, like a garage apartment or something.
But I think the first night we'd be together, and say I heard someone walking around, that would freak me out, I'm just not conditioned to having another person in place.
They're probably more use to it than I am.
Romance is difference, cause with romance, you've gotten to know some one over weeks, months, years, and you're attracted to them, them you, but a stranger, what's there to be attracted to, especially if husky and dull looking.
I don't know, they should of showed more interest in me, instead of waiting till last minute.
Which tells me they're desperate for a place, again either no one wants them, or, more than likely they, like most, eventually end up realizing it's me who's the 'sane and safe one', not others.
And when people finally realize that, when that light bulb finally goes off in head, then I become of value to them, but by then my needs have changed.
I hope this person can find a place, or they may have to rent a hotel room, like in the movies....with neon light flashing, and the sound of sirens going off all night.
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Post by X factor on Jun 20, 2020 12:34:56 GMT -5
Heck no I don't want no roommate, that guy, man, whomever, they should of responded to me at the 'moment'.
If, when, someone show's interest in you, respond in that 'window', while it's open, don't wait weeks later to respond when window has shut again.
Their mistake.
Not only that, but they claim to have a good job, well anyone with a good job who can't secure their own place, that makes me wonder.
I mean if an adult male, with a decent job, yet can't get place of your own, somethings not being shared.
Either broke lease in the past, something.
And I don't, would not, want to find out what that 'something' is once moved in.
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Post by X factor on Jun 20, 2020 12:47:06 GMT -5
Not only that, but they never showed interest in me as a person, never asked me what it is I do, where I'm from, my hobbies, nothing.
What it is is they realized after looking around that the place I originally offered them was by far the best choice, and by far they realized I was the most 'sane' person out there, a bit silly at times, but totally sane.
Now reality has hit them, and they're probably getting 'Hannibal the Cannibal' type responses, or being shown roach infested places with nasty carpet and cigarette smoke smell in run down dirty neighborhoods.
I gave them a chance, and they took my initial chance for granted.
I wish them well, but cause they failed to get to know me, they've given me no reason to want them as a roommate.
They'd get way more out of it than I would.
You have to endear yourself to others, if you want others to help you...that's so basic, but this person failed to understand that.
They had 2 weeks to endear themselves to me, and failed to do so, as such hell no will I allow a stranger to suddenly move in, simply cause no other place worked out for them.
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Post by X factor on Jun 20, 2020 12:56:04 GMT -5
Tired of people who only see value in me when they have no other choice.
Then in the end, they realize I should of been their first choice.
That's like the story of my life.
Welcome to the 'Twylight Zone'....a place, a reality, like no other.
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Post by X factor on Jul 30, 2020 4:35:22 GMT -5
This is why I don't really want a roommate 
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Post by X factor on Oct 16, 2020 19:57:58 GMT -5
I feel sorry for those who are seeking a room in roommate add sections
I feel sorry for people who need rooms, and must seek out a roommate who will accept them, cause it puts them at such a disadvantage.
I mean to move in with a total stranger, maybe when younger, more trusting, that seems OK, but as you age, get older, observe, understand more about the dynamics of human nature, the thought of a roommate becomes more scary, as many things do as you age.
Years ago, when more socially innocent and ignorant, I'd think nothing about moving in with complete stranger and taking their word word for everything, but now...now, I wouldn't be able to hardly sleep that first night.
I mean every time I heard movement, I'd get nervious, and vice versa.
But when desperate one is desperate, and many do need a room right now, do to Covid lay offs.
And pictures, not sure if they help or harm.
In that we all want to see picture of person seeking room, but when see picture we immediately begin judging.
I mean if they look to good, than we think it's a scam
If they look homely, or not attractive we're like 'never'.
If they're a female we think 'hmm, are they a addict, do they have some criminal boyfriend who will show up and rob place while I'm gone?'
If they're a male we think 'What if they over power me at night, what if I want them to leave and they won't?'
If they're a senior we think 'Why don't they have their act together by now?, what's really going on here?'
Then add color, ethnicity, and soxual orientation and more, and your head can spin when trying to decide who you'd allow to move in with you.
We tend to either seek that which is most like us, in looks and style, or ethnicity to move in, or some chose their opposite for balance.
Like if a black male, you'd probably be more at ease roomming with a sissy looking younger white male.
But if a white male, whites usually prefer other whites.
Females usually prefer other female roommates, yet males usually open to both genders.
Asians and Hispanics rarely need rooms, where I stay, cause they have such tight family ties.
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All that aside, the perfect roommate is one who pays their rent on time, but never home.
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Post by X factor on Oct 16, 2020 20:05:18 GMT -5
It's tough looking for a room, cause if ugly, no one wants you in their place, yet if considered attractive, everyone does so they can exploit you, or try.
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Post by X factor on Oct 16, 2020 20:07:24 GMT -5
It's tough looking for a room, cause if ugly, no one wants you in their place, yet if considered attractive, everyone does so they can exploit you, or try. That's why in my opinion, if need a room, it's best to rent a room in like those boarding houses (outdated term), but you know, like a large house, with like 3-4 separate rooms in them ran by outside landlord. That way rent is still affordable, and yet not beholden to anyone living in the place. |
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Post by X factor on Oct 16, 2020 20:15:13 GMT -5
If younger, and had more enthusiasm for life still, I'd work 2 jobs, but as of now I barely have the energy for the one job I work...well I have the energy but not the enthusiasm.
But somethings gotta give soon, it always does, especially if labor for a living, cause eventually you just get to wore out to labor, then what?, or injured, then what?
What if injured or get sick way before can retire, and single, then what?
A good roommate can totally cut living expenses in half, 2 could reduce rent or mortgage to zero...but get 1 or 2 bad roommates who move in, are loud, eat your food, don't pay rent, then you'll wish you were dead.
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Post by X factor on Oct 16, 2020 20:34:36 GMT -5
Examples of pics  OK, this guy is 27 and from South Carolina, and 'fem', they state in their add, boy South Carolina has really changed from how I remember it, no wonder Lindsy Graham the Rep Senator may loose his seat, anyways, they need a room, they're tall, slender and very 'fem'..that means a biological male who thinks in their mind that they 'sway' like a women. (Although in reality there is no set ways a woman sways, women are different, depending on which culture one is from, and not all women sway like street walkers). That aside, they seem responsible, they claim to have a steady job, but, but, would 'I' want a fem looking guy walking in and out of place all day and night?, and what would neighbors think? They'd think we, meaning me and them, were getting it on in the place, even if we weren't, they'd just roll their eyes and be like 'ye sure'...  Maybe if I lived out in the woods, or in more private place, I could handle a roommate like this... Next!  Now this dude is old, past their physical prime, lived good life, like most of his gender and social class when younger, but now dude is old, featureless and dealing with income issues to maintain house by water and so needs a room. They prefer female though. Not to be rude, but what female in their right mind would want to move in with Egor? Any lady who's young and still attractive choosing to move in with this guy, would simply be doing so to exploit the hell out of them, period and done. Can you imagine walking out of the bathroom in a towel, and having this guy gazing at you?..ugg, even if a slender younger male, ugg. The only type of roommate they'll probably get is some older Army vet that's injured or something. I'm just glad I'm not in position of needing a room, but could change any time, is why I try not to get cocky.
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